Will not repent even in the face of counter evidence

  For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. -2 Timothy 4:3, NIV Before discovery or even after discovery of an affair, you might experience … Continue reading “Will not repent even in the face of counter evidence”

So called “justifications”

“We were already divorced in our hearts,” says Cheater. “Our marriage has had problems for years,” says Cheater. “I’ve been unhappy in our marriage for a long time,” says Cheater. Cheaters accept lies to “justify” their sinful behavior. This is what is at the root of the problem for Cheaters. They have bought into lies. … Continue reading “So called “justifications””

Faith over fear

And straightway the father of the child cried out, and said with tears, “Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief.” -Mark 9:24, KJV Like this father, sometimes we need help with our unbelief. I believe anxiety (non-medical kind) and fear are rooted in unbelief in God’s goodness towards us. More specifically, we struggle to believe … Continue reading “Faith over fear”

Spiritual Abuse: “Remember, stay teachable!”

Though the arrogant have smeared me with lies,     I keep your precepts with all my heart. -Psalm 119:69, NIV “Remember, you need to stay teachable,” says arrogant authority figure. The irony of people using this charge is that they are often the least teachable persons in the room! They approach you as if they could learn … Continue reading “Spiritual Abuse: “Remember, stay teachable!””

Going to spiritual war with prayers

The fear of man bringeth a snare: but whoso putteth his trust in the LORD shall be safe. -Proverbs 29:25, KJV   Evicting the voices and judgments of others in our heads is a hard thing to do. This is doubly so when the person who spoke destructive things about us was someone whom we … Continue reading “Going to spiritual war with prayers”

Need accountability, not ego-strokes!

“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV Cheaters do not need reminders of their special-ness. They do NOT need ego-strokes. They need reminders that they are accountable for their sinful behavior. A godly pastor will keep this in mind … Continue reading “Need accountability, not ego-strokes!”