When at a conference following the fresh official end to my first marriage, I was given some solid advice about my future. Like two ships untying their lines from a dock, I was told to let my ex-wife sail her ship away as I did the same. It was about cutting the cord and going … Continue reading “Cutting the Cord”
Category: Emotional Affair
Divorce Shame Evil!
And Joseph her husband, being a righteous man and not wanting to disgrace her, planned to divorce her secretly. -Matthew 1:19, NASB (footnote alternate translation used) Divorce Shame Evil! When Christian leaders rail against divorce under all circumstances, they are engaging in an evil practice of which they may not be aware. They may not see … Continue reading “Divorce Shame Evil!”
Naive Christians Will Never Understand
“And whosoever will not receive you, when ye go out of that city, shake off the very dust from your feet for a testimony against them.” -Luke 9:5, KJV Some cheaters are unfit company. The best we can do is limit or end our contact with some individuals who refuse to bend the knee to … Continue reading “Naive Christians Will Never Understand”
And then the cheating is uncovered.
…and be sure your sin will find you out. -Numbers 32:23b, KJV All those emotionally cold counseling meetings. All the finger-pointing and fault-finding sessions. All the anger over what seemed petty yet was treated as “life and death” marriage problems. …then the cheating is uncovered, and it all starts to make sense. While it … Continue reading “And then the cheating is uncovered.”
Mess? That’s the real Christmas.
Gabriel appeared to her and said, “Greetings, favored woman! The Lord is with you!” -Luke 1:28, NLT Merry Christmas! Whether this is truly a day of celebration or merely a day to endure, I think much is present to encourage. Both was the case on the first Christmas. It was not all singing angels and wonderfulness. … Continue reading “Mess? That’s the real Christmas.”
Divorce And the Original Christmas Story
This is how the birth of Jesus the Messiah came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit. Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, … Continue reading “Divorce And the Original Christmas Story”
Crummy Cheaters on Christmas
What is it about the holiday season that seems to bring out the worse in cheaters? I will never forget the winter flight I took home alone with an empty seat next to mine. My cheater had decided that she could not emotionally hack a Christmas with my family. Instead, she stayed with a “Brutus … Continue reading “Crummy Cheaters on Christmas”
“But she looked so miserable.”
“But she looked so miserable. You must have been doing or not doing something to make her so.” -Cheater Apologist What if–and this is apparently a radical idea–we treat wives and husbands as independently responsible for care-taking their own emotional lives. I have no doubt some cheaters are truly miserable as their marriages come to … Continue reading ““But she looked so miserable.””
PSA: Sorry Caught Cheaters
Public Service Announcement: Cheaters who only say sorry for what you caught them doing are really only sorry that they got caught. Some cheaters have so much contempt for us, faithful spouses, that they will ask for our information and sources in order to only confess up to the exact point of exposure to us. … Continue reading “PSA: Sorry Caught Cheaters”
Mailbag: What does learning to embrace one’s quirkiness mean?
Dear DM, When you say you had to learn to love yourself quirkiness, introvertness and all – do you mean that you struggled with blaming yourself for your ex’s rejection? I’m 5 years out and have definitely been blessed by God since the divorce. I still have this anxiety about it having been my fault … Continue reading “Mailbag: What does learning to embrace one’s quirkiness mean?”