I have come to set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. -Matthew 10:35, NLT While the saying: “Blood is thicker than water” too often proves true when it comes to a cheater getting support from their (enabling) parents, it is not the way of true … Continue reading “Christ first or family first? The (ex) in-laws.”
Category: Emotional Affair
No Issues With Never Being Married To Her Again.
Not one of you will enter the land I swore with uplifted hand to make your home, except Caleb son of Jephunneh and Joshua son of Nun. -Numbers 14:30, NIV While I hope my ex-wife finds repentance one day, I have moved on with my life. We will never be married again as I am … Continue reading “No Issues With Never Being Married To Her Again.”
No Rest for the Wicked
So God’s rest is there for people to enter, but those who first heard this good news failed to enter because they disobeyed God. -Hebrews 4:6, NLT Rest and peace are not in the offering for those who choose disobedience over godliness. And those who truly are not bothered by their wicked deeds are the … Continue reading “No Rest for the Wicked”
“She cheated. I am not surprised,” says Outside Observer
“She cheated. I’m not surprised. He should have paid her more attention.” -Outside Observer “He cheated on her. I’m not surprised. She really let herself go.” – Outside Observer These sort of observations are examples of victim blaming. JUST DON’T!!! Such Outside Observers are trading on the false notion that circumstances cause cheating as opposed … Continue reading ““She cheated. I am not surprised,” says Outside Observer”
God did not author this! She did.
Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. – James 1:13, NKJV God did not author this! She did. An unfortunate consequence of allowing human freedom is allowing humans to make sinful choices. Those choices belong to … Continue reading “God did not author this! She did.”
It’s a Buffet of Bad Options!
“’If a man is found lying with a married woman, then both of them shall die, the man who lay with the woman, and the woman; thus you shall purge the evil from Israel.’” -Deuteronomy 22:22, NASB. While much is made of God’s proclamation of hating divorce in Malachi 2:16, I fear that many … Continue reading “It’s a Buffet of Bad Options!”
Taylor Swift, Sexual Assault, and Adultery Victim Blaming Parallels
Recently, Taylor Swift testified in a court case where a DJ was suing her for losing his job. This DJ, David Mueller, had grabbed Taylor Swift’s bottom–i.e. sexually assaulted her–and got fired over this unacceptable behavior by his employer (more info here). Taylor was testifying about her feelings regarding his firing. Essentially, she makes it … Continue reading “Taylor Swift, Sexual Assault, and Adultery Victim Blaming Parallels”
Dear DM, I just don’t know what to do….
Dear DM, Please I need your help…. I am a 25 year old female who is in a 1 year relationship with a 52 year old man, but that’s not inherently where the issue lies…. The man I am dating is a pastor. And he is married. I met him when the pastor at the … Continue reading “Dear DM, I just don’t know what to do….”
Some people are just cowards.
“Why won’t he just own up and confess already? I know he cheated. “ -Exasperated faithful wife In my experience, faithful spouses are tough and courageous people. They have gone through the fire and have had their amazing strength exposed. Cheaters, on the other hand… Some people are just plain cowards. Faithful spouses are confused by … Continue reading “Some people are just cowards.”
Pay Attention to Power Dynamics!
“So what if you forgave her? You would always be able to hold her cheating over her head.” – Cheater “supporter” What so many faithful spouses fail to recognize early is how the relationship with their cheater is really about the cheater having and maintaining power. Remember the adage: Knowledge is power. We think that … Continue reading “Pay Attention to Power Dynamics!”