But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. -Isaiah 40:31, KJV Dealing with abandonment and infidelity is exhausting. One of the songs I would return to for encouragement during the dark season of my … Continue reading “Song to encourage”
Category: Encouragement
DM: Forged by the fire
“See, it is I who created the blacksmith who fans the coals into flame and forges a weapon fit for its work. And it is I who have created the destroyer to wreak havoc; no weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of … Continue reading “DM: Forged by the fire”
I envy.
I envy some faithful spouses. The cheater cheats on them, gets discovered, and the faithful spouse does not even blink an eye in telling that cheater it is over. They refuse to be treated like that. They exercise their permission to divorce without looking back. That wasn’t me. I suspect many of us did what … Continue reading “I envy.”
Too short. Let’s focus on gratitude.
In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. -I Thessalonians 5:18, KJV Life is frustrating at times. Injustice is rife in this world. Yet I am choosing to focus on the gifts in my life. It is a command–after all–that we choose thanksgiving. I find this … Continue reading “Too short. Let’s focus on gratitude.”
A Spiritual Principle: Hope comes as a baby
“Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.” – Luke 2:11-12, NIV When Jesus–God’s son–was born, he was not born into this world as … Continue reading “A Spiritual Principle: Hope comes as a baby”
God knows, and God is always faithful!
And he passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, “The Lord, the Lord, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness….” -Exodus 34:6, NIV When I was going through my divorce from my cheater, the future looked extremely bleak on the employment front for me. I was SOOO close to giving up on … Continue reading “God knows, and God is always faithful!”
Sometimes distraction is helpful.
When I was heading for my divorce and then recovering from it, I had some wonderful friends who helped distract me from the pain. It was a gift. I hope you have a true friend or two who does that for you as well. Sometimes, we need a break from the grief work. That is … Continue reading “Sometimes distraction is helpful.”
Happy Thanksgiving!
Happy Thanksgiving! What are you thankful for this year? Let us take this holiday to think about the gifts God has given us. Thankfulness is a wonderful antidote to negativity and resentment. I am SOOOO thankful for my daughter and Mrs. DM. Plus, I am grateful for the parrots God has entrusted into our care … Continue reading “Happy Thanksgiving!”
Better days ahead!
The Lord blessed the latter days of Job more than his beginning…. -Job 42:12a, NASB So much is done within the Church to reinforce fears concerning divorce. Even a ministry I generally recommend for those divorcing a cheating spouse, DivorceCare, does this to some extent. They certainly do not encourage divorce–even when, I believe, that … Continue reading “Better days ahead!”
Anyone labelled as the problem in the marriage by the counselor?
Anyone else here given a label by a counselor identifying YOU as the marriage problem? This assumes the cheater comes to counseling. Some don’t. A problem with counselors is that some are not up on the games cheaters play. They become complicit in the act of keeping the faithful spouse off the scent of what … Continue reading “Anyone labelled as the problem in the marriage by the counselor?”