After months, years, or even decades of emotional beat-downs, faithful spouses often struggle in knowing their incredible worth. We discount our gifts, abilities, and precious status in God’s eyes. Faithful spouses, you are an incredible bunch! The stories I hear and the people I have met through this ministry confirms this fact to me. I … Continue reading “Faithful Spouses, You ROCK!!”
Category: Encouragement
Hardened
But this time also Pharaoh hardened his heart and would not let the people go. -Exodus 8:32, NIV The reality of one’s powerlessness is one of the most difficult aspects of going through an unwanted divorce. Yet this very real powerlessness can serve as a comfort after the fact! As an introspective person, I find … Continue reading “Hardened”
Father’s Day: SOO thankful for my dad!
Children’s children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are their fathers. -Proverbs 17:6, KJV When my world fell apart, my dad was there (along with my mother) to support me and provide a place to land as I put the pieces of my shattered life back together. I spent countless … Continue reading “Father’s Day: SOO thankful for my dad!”
My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?
“My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?” -Matthew 27:46b, KJV When I was struggling the most, these words from Jesus brought me the greatest comfort. They were reminders to me that God understood the pain and suffering that I was enduring. He could relate. Jesus understands what it meant to suffer unjustly. Jesus understands … Continue reading “My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?”
Again: O, the injustice!
There is something else meaningless that occurs on earth: the righteous who get what the wicked deserve, and the wicked who get what the righteous deserve. This too, I say, is meaningless. So I commend the enjoyment of life, because there is nothing better for a person under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then … Continue reading “Again: O, the injustice!”
A Tale of Two Lives–Five Years Ago Today!
Five years ago to this day, I applied for my first unit of Clinical Pastoral Education (CPE) while my world was falling apart. My wife had left me. We were still doing couples counseling–as I remember it. But that was an exercise in futility. Unknown to me at the time, my (now ex) wife was … Continue reading “A Tale of Two Lives–Five Years Ago Today!”
Celebrating Mighty Mothers!
But his mother treasured all these things in her heart. -Luke 2:51b, NIV This post is to acknowledge and celebrate all those amazing mothers who come here. The world is a better place because of your dedication and faithfulness–even and especially–in this world broken by treachery and sin. Happy Mother’s Day! I know I am … Continue reading “Celebrating Mighty Mothers!”
Encouraging Psalm 31
Today, I am just leaving you with one of my favorite Psalms. Its promises and heart cries to God were especially meaningful to me as I went through deep valleys of my first marriage’s end. Psalm 31 King James Version (KJV) 1 In thee, O Lord, do I put my trust; let me never be ashamed: … Continue reading “Encouraging Psalm 31”
Loving Well Matters Eternally!
Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ -Matthew 22:37-39, NLT In the midst of the real injustices and insults surrounding being cheated upon, faithful spouses often … Continue reading “Loving Well Matters Eternally!”
Working on the Divorce Minister book…
Work has commenced in producing a book form of this blog. I have tentatively entitled the project: Taking Adultery Seriously: The Divorce Minister Guide To Surviving Infidelity Since I have a full-time job that pays the bills and an active young family, please be patient with me as I work on the manuscript for this … Continue reading “Working on the Divorce Minister book…”