While I am thankful for the help of some Christian resources in my dark season, I discovered most had an agenda apart from freely presenting the options. Most Christian resources–in my experience–are focused upon “saving the marriage” at the unacknowledged cost of the faithful spouse’s well-being. For these authors and pastors, no cost–from the faithful … Continue reading “Most resources I found…”
Category: Encouragement
Music Ministers to the Soul
Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world. -I John 4:4, KJV When faced with scary lies, I encourage you to remember who is with you. God is greater than any problem before you. Do not give into … Continue reading “Music Ministers to the Soul”
Worst piece of advice given to me was …
“Contend with your mother, contend, For she is not my wife, and I am not her husband; And let her put away her harlotry from her face And her adultery from between her breasts…” -Hosea 2:2, NASB While I do not mind the end result–the merciful divorce paving the way to my marriage to Mrs. DM–I am still … Continue reading “Worst piece of advice given to me was …”
What Divorce Minister Is.
When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. -Matthew 9:36, NIV Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously Critics of me and this blog often have the wrong picture of what this website is (By the way, thank you to all those who wrote … Continue reading “What Divorce Minister Is.”
The troubles of this life do not win. Jesus does.
“In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” -Jesus in John 16:33b, NIV Whatever the trouble we may facing, we have these words of comfort from Jesus. The world does not win! It soothes my anxieties to remember this truth. While Jesus promises that we will experience trouble in this … Continue reading “The troubles of this life do not win. Jesus does.”
Not Everyone Is Worthy of Knowing
Then he ordered his disciples not to tell anyone that he was the Messiah. -Matthew 16:20, NIV This verse follows Peter’s confession of Jesus’ true identity. And much wisdom resides in this charge from Jesus. Sometimes keeping an important truth about our identity secret is wise. To use Clinical Pastoral Education language, one of my … Continue reading “Not Everyone Is Worthy of Knowing”
Asking Readers: What has Divorce Minister meant to you?
Asking Readers: What has Divorce Minister meant to you? Since starting this blog about four years ago, I have experienced pressure to shut it down from time to time. People apparently find my core message here: “Taking Adultery Seriously” offensive. Who knew a spiritual leader teaching we should ACTUALLY live by the Ten Commandments would … Continue reading “Asking Readers: What has Divorce Minister meant to you?”
An Encouraging Psalm – Psalm 43
Psalms were a lifeline for me as I went through the darkest of nights. Here’s a particularly meaningful one. Enjoy… Psalm 43 King James Version (KJV) 43 Judge me, O God, and plead my cause against an ungodly nation: O deliver me from the deceitful and unjust man. 2 For thou art the God of my strength: why … Continue reading “An Encouraging Psalm – Psalm 43”
Testify to Adultery Intolerance!
God says, “If a husband divorces his wife And she goes from him And belongs to another man, Will he still return to her? Will not that land be completely polluted? But you are a harlot with many lovers; Yet you turn to Me,” declares the Lord. -Jeremiah 3:1, NASB Do you notice the assumption behind this statement? The assumption is that the … Continue reading “Testify to Adultery Intolerance!”
In defense of men during this #metoo moment
I am a man. I am an ordained evangelical minister. And I am not ashamed of those facts! What troubles me about some reactions to the Andy Savage story is how they assume this is normal behavior of evangelical ministers or even young Christian men. It is not! We are not all predators. When I was … Continue reading “In defense of men during this #metoo moment”