Some songs can invoke a time in our lives with just a few notes. This song, “You Won’t Relent,” by Misty Edwards does that for me. It transports me back to the immediate time after my divorce. The devastation of an unwanted divorce is incredible. I think this is especially true for those of us … Continue reading “When all seems lost, cling to God.”
Category: Grief
That “bitter card” play
Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. – Hebrews 12:14-15, NIV I am suspicious of … Continue reading “That “bitter card” play”
A fantastic resource: Michael Card on lament
So often the church has lost sight of how important lament is. God wants our honesty. And sometimes all we can give God is our tears and protests of pain. The following series of YouTube videos linked below lay out a teaching by the Christian musician, Michael Card, on the topic of lament. It blessed … Continue reading “A fantastic resource: Michael Card on lament”
Other people are affected, too!
You must purge the evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22b, NIV Divorce and abandonment by a cheater impacts the whole community. This is not a private matter! I was reading an article the other night where the parents of a cheater is struggling with what to do with the lover. They really loved their (now former) … Continue reading “Other people are affected, too!”
If only I had learn this earlier, maybe I would still be married? Nah.
“If only I had learned to ____ quicker, my marriage might not have ended.” -Faithful Spouse Spinning While understandable, this sort of thinking is just another form of “The Shared Responsibility Lie.” The faithful spouse is sharing responsibility for the choices and sins of their ex-spouse. I hate to break the news, but we are … Continue reading “If only I had learn this earlier, maybe I would still be married? Nah.”
Recalibrating Expectations: Marriage resurrection is not the norm.
….but the angel said, “Don’t be alarmed. You are looking for Jesus of Nazareth, who was crucified. He isn’t here! He is risen from the dead! Look, this is where they laid his body.” -Mark 16:6, NLT Resurrection is unexpected. It is not how things normally go. This is in part why Jesus coming back from … Continue reading “Recalibrating Expectations: Marriage resurrection is not the norm.”
You cannot go back. You must go forward!
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. -Psalm 23:4, KJV You cannot go back. Time does not work that way. You cannot unknow what you now know. Knowledge does not work that … Continue reading “You cannot go back. You must go forward!”
Just a historical fact
The Lord blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12a, NIV Looking back is odd these days, I feel like I am considering a stranger as I think about my first marriage. God has truly blessed the second part of my life. I feel tremendously grateful for all He has poured … Continue reading “Just a historical fact”
But I wanted to stay divorce!!!
At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised.” -Job 1:20-21, NIV Shame … Continue reading “But I wanted to stay divorce!!!”
Strengthen through music!
When I was struggling the most, I would spend time soaking in the tub at my condominium while listening to music. The music was songs that reminded me of truths about God. They were songs to remind me of God’s love for me and to give me hope. I recommend this practice of listening to … Continue reading “Strengthen through music!”