“It is not adultery. We were living apart at the time,” says Cheater. A cheater trying to avoid responsibility for violating their marriage vows might attempt to use the “geography excuse.” This is the one where they excuse their behavior as “acceptable” since they were living apart from their spouse. They might even have started … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “But we were separated.””
Category: Sin
Biting so called sheep
If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other. -Galatians 5:15, NIV “Beware of false prophets who come disguised as harmless sheep but are really vicious wolves.” -Matthew 7:15, NLT Not everyone who comes to you as a “sheep” is one of Jesus’ flock. God knows. And … Continue reading “Biting so called sheep”
Refutation in the Kingdom
…no weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord… -Isaiah 54:17a, NIV I find this verse instructive about how we engage in spiritual warfare. We are not passive participants. God calls us to speak truth, which has the power to refute … Continue reading “Refutation in the Kingdom”
Redeeming the experience of being abused
“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.” -I Corinthians 13:11, NIV “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” -Popular Saying God has given us … Continue reading “Redeeming the experience of being abused”
My frustration with some “Christian” mental health providers
“If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive.” -Luke 17:3b, NLT Rebuke, repentance, THEN AND ONLY THEN, forgiveness is to be offered. This is the order Jesus Himself gave us for godly forgiveness. However, this is usually NOT the order presented to faithful spouses or Christians in other traumatic situations. … Continue reading “My frustration with some “Christian” mental health providers”
Book resource: WHEN NARCISSISM COMES TO CHURCH
I just finished a book on narcissism and Christianity. It was full of insights about how these disordered individuals operate in the church and how to address such individuals. The book is When Narcissism Comes to Church: Healing Your Community From Emotional and Spiritual Abuse by Chuck DeGroat. I wrote a post recently from a quote I … Continue reading “Book resource: WHEN NARCISSISM COMES TO CHURCH”
“Yes, it is a problem. Adultery is THE problem!”
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Which is the biggest marital sin that one can commit according to the Bible? Adultery. Cheaters–and sometimes, even well-meaning pastors–sometimes treat adultery as a side problem to marriage troubles. This … Continue reading ““Yes, it is a problem. Adultery is THE problem!””
Cheater-Speak: “You weren’t doing enough.”
“You weren’t pulling your weight in this family. So, I was all alone and overwhelmed with everything. That’s why I cheated,” says Cheater. The poor overwhelmed cheater was able to make space in her calendar to lie, steal, and risk the physical well-being of their spouse. Such a cheater is trying to illicit pity in … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “You weren’t doing enough.””
Yes, they DO get more vicious while cheating!
They demonstrate that God’s law is written in their hearts, for their own conscience and thoughts either accuse them or tell them they are doing right. -Romans 2:15, NLT Sometimes cheaters become crueler to their spouses when they are actively engaged in infidelity. They cheat and attend couples counseling where they tell the counselor or … Continue reading “Yes, they DO get more vicious while cheating!”
Yeah, how dare we! Ha.
How dare we object to being humiliated by our cheater! How dare we object to our cheater dirty dancing with another partner! How dare we object to our cheater taking another (romantic) partner as their plus one! Cheaters treat faithful spouses as the unreasonable one. Ironically, they are the unreasonable ones in these scenarios. Cheaters act entitled … Continue reading “Yeah, how dare we! Ha.”