How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14b, NLT Cheaters have declared allegiance to the Kingdom of Darkness by their choices and actions. They speak in the language of their chosen kingdom–i.e. lies–and they choose to walk in darkness instead of light. This is the fundamental … Continue reading “Kingdom Incompatibility”
Category: Sin
Do not let them rile you up too much!
If you live without restraint and are unable to control your temper, you’re as helpless as a city with broken-down defenses, open to attack. -Proverbs 25:28, TPT Boy, this is a hard one to learn. Cheaters seemed skilled at needling their partner just where they are the most vulnerable. It might be over their “manhood” … Continue reading “Do not let them rile you up too much!”
Taking on too much!
I took on way too much blame in my first marriage. It was a symptom of my desire to “save” it. I was desperate to keep the relationship together. So, I would “confess” my sins to my (now) ex-wife in an effort to demonstrate that I would do better so that she’d stay. What a … Continue reading “Taking on too much!”
Not Cheap!
Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV “God forgives me. So what’s your problem?!” -Cheater Does … Continue reading “Not Cheap!”
Red Flag: Empathy sin teaching
The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth. -John 1:14, NIV Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. -Romans 12:15, KJV Recently, empathy has encountered push back in … Continue reading “Red Flag: Empathy sin teaching”
Aggressors, not victims!
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! -I Corinthians 6:15, NIV Cheater, you are the aggressor, not the victim, here! For whatever reasons, people are often taken in by the pity story a caught Cheater spins … Continue reading “Aggressors, not victims!”
Choices… Cheater choices.
“Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!” -Deuteronomy 30:19, NLT Choices, choices, and Cheater choices! The thing with Cheaters is … Continue reading “Choices… Cheater choices.”
Permission to divorce comes with permission to remarry
When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when … Continue reading “Permission to divorce comes with permission to remarry”
Communication issues? Really?!
“Sounds like you all need to learn how to better communicate,” says clueless pastor to Cheater and Faithful Spouse. This is such a pathetic cop out to the real problems a couple faces when infidelity has occurred. The problems are much deeper than “communication issues.” Adultery is sin. So, it is a sin, not a … Continue reading “Communication issues? Really?!”
Cheater: “I sorted the issues around my affair with my therapist. We’re good.”
“I talked through my issues around the affair with my therapist. We’re good now,” says Cheater. He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her.“ -Mark 10:11, NIV An affair is a violation of the marriage vow to “forsake all others.” The cheater has sinned against their spouse–whether physically or … Continue reading “Cheater: “I sorted the issues around my affair with my therapist. We’re good.””