“But now bring charges against Israel—your mother— for she is no longer my wife, and I am no longer her husband. Tell her to remove the prostitute’s makeup from her face and the clothing that exposes her breasts.” -Hosea 2:2, NLT Staying with a cheater is often a waste of time. Cheaters often do not … Continue reading “Waste of time”
Category: Sin
Curses missing
Like a flitting sparrow, like a flying swallow, So a curse without cause shall not alight. -Proverbs 26:2, KJV May all who gloat over my distress be put to shame and confusion; may all who exalt themselves over me be clothed with shame and disgrace. -Psalm 35:26, NIV My former father-in-law acted in very entitled ways at … Continue reading “Curses missing”
Sad, Deluded Cheaters
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Cheaters are often self-deluded. They think that if they have justified their infidelity to themselves then it is justified. Nothing could be further from the truth. Nothing justifies committing adultery! God does not hand out exceptions to the Ten Commandments. That is not how this most basic … Continue reading “Sad, Deluded Cheaters”
Not forgiven
“And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.” -Matthew 7:23, KJV While I believe God makes forgiveness available to all (John 3:16, 2 Cor 5:14, etc), I do not believe all are forgiven. This verse from the Sermon on the Mount makes that much clear. … Continue reading “Not forgiven”
Leverage?! Really?!
The wicked flee though no one pursues…. -Proverbs 28:1a, NIV Disturbed people only see a history of cheating as leverage in a marriage. They could care less how the cheating has damaged and harmed the faithful spouse. The bigger problem for them is that they fear the faithful spouse “forever” holding it “over the head” … Continue reading “Leverage?! Really?!”
Grief lingers
Grief lingers on long after forgiveness has put anger to bed. This is my experience now years removed from my divorce from a cheater. The anger is long gone. Yet I find myself feeling sad as I think of what was lost, tragically. I say tragically as it never had to happen. Yet God allows … Continue reading “Grief lingers”
PSA: No. They did NOT “have to” cheat on you!
Public Service Announcement (PSA): No. They did NOT have to cheat on you! No matter what. They chose sin over godliness, and that is on them. Personally, I think this is the most tragic thing about marital infidelity. It is also one of the oldest of lies. The cheater did not have to go … Continue reading “PSA: No. They did NOT “have to” cheat on you!”
Toying With Faithful Spouses
Some Cheaters are acutely aware of the power they have over the faithful spouse. They understand that divorcing their spouse will mean the professional destruction of the faithful spouse. Plus, they may know that the faithful spouse is highly committed to working through even infidelity. Maybe they understand the faithful spouse would do anything to … Continue reading “Toying With Faithful Spouses”
I care about you but…
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NIV I care about you BUT not enough… …to end my friendship with the adulterous spouse until she repents. My thoughts: “Sorry, your concern for me sounds skin deep. Scripture is clear that a person who … Continue reading “I care about you but…”
Geography Excuse
“It is not adultery. We were living apart at the time,” says Cheater. Cheaters trying to avoid responsibility for violating their marriage vows might attempt to use the “geography excuse.” This is the one where they excuse their behavior as “acceptable” since they were living apart from their spouse. They might even have started their … Continue reading “Geography Excuse”