Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” -Malachi 2:13-14a, NIV The disconnect between what some “Christians” say and do is astounding. -A cheater apologist can talk about righteous living while turning a … Continue reading “The Disconnect”
Category: Sin
Adultery is the main event, NOT a “regrettable footnote” to the marriage’s demise.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV How can you miss it that bad?! How can someone read and understand the Bible yet treat adultery as a “regrettable footnote” to a marriage ending? It astounds me … Continue reading “Adultery is the main event, NOT a “regrettable footnote” to the marriage’s demise.”
Old Testament Polygamy Loophole?
“I gave your master’s house to you, and your master’s wives into your arms. I gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more.” -2 Samuel 12:8, NIV What do we make of God saying that He would have given King David more … Continue reading “Old Testament Polygamy Loophole?”
Ring Bellwether
When a cheater goes on vacation and removes her wedding ring, you can be sure she is emotionally unfaithful (and likely more). The wedding ring minds us and others that we are married. It is a symbol that helps signal socially that the person is unavailable. A person choosing to remove this article and “forget” … Continue reading “Ring Bellwether”
House sold. House bought. Now, unpacking.
Well, Mrs. DM and I are busy unpacking in our new home. God is so faithful. He did a work to both get our place to sell and for us to get this particular house. I am grateful. So much of surviving infidelity and thriving later, I believe, is not allowing the situation and religious … Continue reading “House sold. House bought. Now, unpacking.”
Moving, moving, moving…
I am going to be busy the next few days… …Moving, moving, moving! Hopefully, I will be posting regularly, again, in a few days. Thanks for understanding! -DM
DM supports remarriage for faithful spouses as an option
If you think remarriage for faithful spouses is forbidden… …THEN THIS BLOG IS NOT FOR YOU!!! As I read Scripture, faithful spouses are free to remarry after divorce without shame. This includes remarrying while the cheater is still alive. Faithful spouses are free from the marital bonds severed via a godly divorce. But if the husband … Continue reading “DM supports remarriage for faithful spouses as an option”
Courageous Confrontation Gift
It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. -I Corinthians 5:12, NLT The path of least resistance with a cheater “friend” is to agree with their sob-story over how they “were driven” to cheat on their spouse. But that is NOT the … Continue reading “Courageous Confrontation Gift”
Unspoken.
Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. -Romans 12:15, KJV When divorce is condemned as a whole from the pulpit, this means all divorce is condemned. Left unspoken is the acknowledgement of those who find themselves divorced against their will and those divorced because they married an abusive, adulterous spouse. Because those … Continue reading “Unspoken.”
“Move on,” Privilege speaks.
“You need to move on,” says the Privileged. When something as traumatic as a surviving the adultery and divorce from a cheater happens, you are forever marked. Over time, I have found the scars fade. However, they will always be there. People pushing for one to “move on” are pushing denial of these scars. It … Continue reading ““Move on,” Privilege speaks.”