There is more hope for fools than for people who think they are wise. –Proverbs 26:12, NLT They traded the truth about God for a lie…. –Romans 1:25a, NLT Cheaters can come across as so confident in their lies. This confidence has the power to make even the most stalwart faithful spouse second-guess their instincts, hard evidence, … Continue reading “Do NOT enter their warped reality!”
Category: Sin
Stop fighting what IS!
Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right. -Proverbs 20:11, KJV Look at your partner’s actions. Is this the sort of thing someone who truly loves another person would do to them? Is this the sort of thing someone who truly is sorry would do? Is this the … Continue reading “Stop fighting what IS!”
No one deserves the adulterous betrayal and discard!
Two wrongs do not make a right. -Moms around the world No one ever deserves the adulterous betrayal and discard. Another way of saying this is to say that NOTHING justifies committing sins against another. I do not read the Bible ever giving us permission to sin. Adultery is sin. Discarding a faithful spouse after cheating on … Continue reading “No one deserves the adulterous betrayal and discard!”
Cheaters “under the influence”
Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit…. Ephesians 5:18, NIV What if your cheater was drunk or “under the influence” of another drug when she cheated? I actually have more hope for those marriages than the ones where a substance was not involved. My reasoning is the … Continue reading “Cheaters “under the influence””
Probably will always touch my heart….
It happened again today. I was watching a reality TV show, and the owner of a restaurant shared his story of divorce from the mother of his children who cheated on him with a younger man, a teenager! He discovered his then wife’s infidelity when she became pregnant even though he had had a vasectomy. … Continue reading “Probably will always touch my heart….”
Why the book?
When I went through my divorce and the ecclesiastical trial to keep my license as a minister, I wished I had a pastor sharing the messages I shared in my book. I had some wonderful friends. (Some are pastors.) These true friends were helpful in my processing my losses and navigating those times. However, the … Continue reading “Why the book?”
Ever an excuse to engage in abuse of another?! No.
I am convinced adultery is always abusive. Always. You cannot cheat on a spouse without abusing their trust minimally. Plus, I have yet to discover a story involving adultery where a period of deception did not take place–however, brief. In addition to that, I believe based on my reading of Scripture that adultery is soul … Continue reading “Ever an excuse to engage in abuse of another?! No.”
Unconditional Love and Consequences
“My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline,and do not lose heart when he rebukes you,because the Lord disciplines the one he loves,and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son.” -Hebrews 12:5b-6, NIV I totally believe God loves us, His children, with an unconditional love. Our place in God’s heart is not determine … Continue reading “Unconditional Love and Consequences”
Good Christian or Cheater? Not both.
Good Christian or Cheater? You choose. You don’t get both. “Christian” cheaters hate having their infidelity exposed. They despise the inconvenience it causes them. It shatters their image as a “good Christian” for anyone with a modicum of theological sense…as it ought to. The thing is that a cheater must choose between their life of lies … Continue reading “Good Christian or Cheater? Not both.”
Sure, divorce is avoidable…
Sure divorce is avoidable… …just don’t commit adultery or marry someone who cheats. This is obviously easier said than done. Most people do not go into a marriage assuming they will cheat (sadly some are already) or their partner will cheat. The vows to forsake all others are taken seriously by at least one party…usually. Yet … Continue reading “Sure, divorce is avoidable…”