Category: Sin

But She Claims To Be a Christian…

Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. I Corinthians 7:15, NASB When a partner is abusive and leaves or forces a faithful partner to separate, is a divorce an option for the abused partner … Continue reading “But She Claims To Be a Christian…”

Denial is not forgiveness

“For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.” – John 3:20, NKJV Silence about infidelity is the same thing as avoiding the light.  It says the person does not what his or her wicked deeds exposed. They have not truly embraced repentance and … Continue reading “Denial is not forgiveness”

Questioning faithful spouses over “their part”

The fathers shall not be put to death for the children, neither shall the children be put to death for the fathers: every man shall be put to death for his own sin. – Deuteronomy 24:16, KJV “What did you contribute to the breakdown of your marriage?” -Inquiring Christian I do not like this sort … Continue reading “Questioning faithful spouses over “their part””

Adultery, Trauma, and Forgiveness

Yesterday, I came across an interesting article about forgiveness and trauma care from a mental health provider, Anastasia Pollock, LCMHC. It is entitled: “Why I Don’t Use the Word ‘Forgiveness’ in Trauma Therapy” Pollock writes, As soon as I say, “You don’t have to forgive,” the person usually breathes a sigh of relief. Once we … Continue reading “Adultery, Trauma, and Forgiveness”

Actually, it IS your RESPONSIBILITY to judge a “Christian” cheater!

I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin…. It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. -I Corinthians 5:11a, 12, NLT Adultery certainly qualifies as sexual sin. What does the … Continue reading “Actually, it IS your RESPONSIBILITY to judge a “Christian” cheater!”

Cheaters framing vice as virtue

Last night, Mrs. DM and I watched the movie “Downsizing” with actor, Matt Damon, starring. It is a futuristic movie about a world where you can opt to undergo an irreversible procedure shrinking you to a fraction of your true size and thereby enter a world where you money goes a long ways. ***SPOILER ALERT*** … Continue reading “Cheaters framing vice as virtue”

Dear DM, I had a pastor really work the forgiveness argument into the ground…

Hi Divorce Minister, I’ve been reading your site for a couple months now and it’s been a great help to me in navigating through the issues with my wife’s affair. In this time I’ve gotten into quite a few long debates with many other Christians (some pastors, some not) about the situation and the amount of … Continue reading “Dear DM, I had a pastor really work the forgiveness argument into the ground…”

God will not tolerate mocking!

Don’t be misled—you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant. Those who live only to satisfy their own sinful nature will harvest decay and death from that sinful nature. But those who live to please the Spirit will harvest everlasting life from the Spirit.  – Galatians 6:7-8, NLT Committing … Continue reading “God will not tolerate mocking!”