How evangelicals respond to tragedy in a pastor’s life says a lot about their character and real theology. It also speaks to their maturity and wisdom as a church or religious body. Sadly, I experienced and have heard many epic fails in this area. It is one thing to say that you love your pastor, and quite … Continue reading “How a church responds to their pastor’s divorce…”
Category: Sin
Pro Tip: Not everyone is reasonable!
“Now think it over and see what you can do, because disaster is hanging over our master and his whole household. He is such a wicked man that no one can talk to him.” -Servant to Abigail, I Samuel 25:17, NIV This verse comes from the story of David, Abigail, and Nabal recorded in I … Continue reading “Pro Tip: Not everyone is reasonable!”
Unfaithful Senior Pastor Resigns and Elmbrook Church Does Right By His Wife
Marital infidelity (and addiction) took down another prominent senior pastor. Jason Webb formerly the senior pastor to Elmbrook Church in Wisconsin resigned on September 19, 2018 due to his infidelities and unspecified addiction. While this is an awful situation for all involved, I applaud the church leadership for how they are handling the matter. They … Continue reading “Unfaithful Senior Pastor Resigns and Elmbrook Church Does Right By His Wife”
Opposite Sex Hatred Phase
When the infidelity betrayal is fresh, a temptation exists to write off an entire gender. I think this is very common for faithful spouses. I think it is part of the grief process. We feel vulnerable and betrayed. The trauma of it all makes us want to avoid putting ourselves in a place where … Continue reading “Opposite Sex Hatred Phase”
Pastors need to say it aloud!
“From the least to the greatest, all are greedy for gain; prophets and priests alike, all practice deceit. They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. Are they ashamed of their detestable conduct? No, they have no shame at all; they … Continue reading “Pastors need to say it aloud!”
Dear DM, I wish I had found your website sooner.
Dear Divorce Minister, I’m not articulate so I’ll try to explain that I wish I had found your website sooner. My husband has been a serial cheater for 25 years, I just didn’t know it. How stupid can a woman be? For many reasons, I wish I had found your website sooner. You see, I’ve … Continue reading “Dear DM, I wish I had found your website sooner.”
Broken bone, a broken soul
All his sons and daughters came to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. “No,” he said, “I will continue to mourn until I join my son in the grave.” So his father wept for him [i.e. Joseph]. – Genesis 37:35, NIV When a broken bone heals, I hear that it is stronger in … Continue reading “Broken bone, a broken soul”
Cheap Forgiveness for Cheaters
Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV “God forgives me. So what’s your problem?!” -Cheater Does … Continue reading “Cheap Forgiveness for Cheaters”
Another Tullian Tchividjian Cheater Pity-Fest
Yet an elder needs to be one who is without blame before others. He should be one whose heart is for his wife alone and not another woman. -I Timothy 3:2, TPT Tullian Tchividjian, disgraced and defrocked former senior pastor of Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church, is complaining, again, about how Christians are too hard on cheaters. He … Continue reading “Another Tullian Tchividjian Cheater Pity-Fest”
Cheater-Speak: “We never…” Really?!
We never… …talk about our finances. Answer: “Then what was that three hour session we had planning how to sell our place, which was underwater?” …have sex. Answer: “Then what was that we were doing last Sunday afternoon together?” …do anything fun. Answer: “Then why were you smiling last Saturday clearly enjoying our trip together to the City?” … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “We never…” Really?!”