But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away. -Proverbs 6:32-33, NIV The real shame is not faithful spouses divorcing cheaters, pastors. The real shame is Christians committing adultery! Preaching or counseling against divorce is a little late when it comes … Continue reading “Pastors, committing adultery is the real shameful act here!”
Category: Sin
Children Deserve the Truth
Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices…. -Colossians 3:9, NIV A lie to a child is still a lie. As Christians, we are to be people who speak truth and not lies. This applies to children of divorce following infidelity. A lie is a lie. Now, we … Continue reading “Children Deserve the Truth”
“I’m sure there were issues on both sides…”
“I’m sure there were issues on both sides. There always are.” -Christian “friend” One of the many things that astound me with this all too common response from other Christians regarding a divorce is how cheap they sell out their so called “friends.” Do you think so little of your Christian friends that you believe … Continue reading ““I’m sure there were issues on both sides…””
PSA: Love-Bombing Christians
“I only say this because I love you.” -Love-Bombing Christian to Faithful Spouse Beware of whatever follows such a statement! Why would someone need to profess their love for you unless they are about to say something that would put that love in question? This is a tactic to disarm. It is use against trusting … Continue reading “PSA: Love-Bombing Christians”
“Why did she HAVE TO leave?”
“Why did she HAVE TO leave?” – Cheater Apologist This is a loaded question. If you even attempt to answer the question, you will lose. No good ways to answer this question exist. It is like the classic loaded question: “When will you stop beating your wife?” Like this question assuming that you are beating … Continue reading ““Why did she HAVE TO leave?””
Must Choose…So Infuriating!
“And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery–unless his wife has been unfaithful.” -Matthew 19:9, NLT Cheaters want “to have their cake and eat it, too.” And I think this is doubly so with religious cheaters. They want to cheat AND maintain an image as if they are … Continue reading “Must Choose…So Infuriating!”
Give Thanks! Happy Thanksgiving!
Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good. His love endures forever. -Psalm 136:1, NIV Even in the midst of great loss and tragedy, I believe it is even more important to give thanks to God. Satan wants to use the trials and traumas of this life to drive a wedge between us and our loving … Continue reading “Give Thanks! Happy Thanksgiving!”
PSA: In the room…
Public Service Announcement: In the room where divorced or nearly divorced Christians meet, you will likely find some who were discarded for another and abandoned against their will. Pastors and other Christian leaders working with this population need to sensitize themselves to this reality. Not everyone at a divorce support group chose divorce. Some of us were … Continue reading “PSA: In the room…”
Sickening Smugness
Smug, married Christians act intolerably towards faithful spouses hemorrhaging from soul rape. These are “know it all” Christians who think all that proceeds from their mouths is gold. They are the “wise” ones in their eyes. The reality is what proceeds from their mouths would be better used to fertilize the fields. These smug people … Continue reading “Sickening Smugness”
An Analogy: If you were violently mugged….
Some Christians do not get “it.” In fact, pastors and Christian counselors can be some of the worse offenders as it comes to spiritually abusing faithful spouses. I cannot imagine most pastors or therapists dispensing the same sort of advice if faced with a different situation of abuse. Yet they think they are dispensing “wisdom,” … Continue reading “An Analogy: If you were violently mugged….”