Category: Sin

“I do understand. That is why we are divorced.”

Cheater: “If only you understood me, you wouldn’t judge me so harshly.” Faithful Spouse: “I DO understand. That is why we are divorced.” A failure to understand is not why divorce is often the best of bad options in dealing with a harden cheater. Please do not waste your time sticking your head into that … Continue reading ““I do understand. That is why we are divorced.””

When Your Cheater Is Eager To Attend “Counseling”

Just because a cheater agrees–and is even eager–to attend couple’s counseling with a therapist or pastor does not mean the cheater is interested in working on themselves. In fact, I would pay attention to how eager the cheater is to attend the counseling session. It might seem counter-intuitive but over-eagerness to attend the couple’s counseling … Continue reading “When Your Cheater Is Eager To Attend “Counseling””

Thoughts on Forgiveness

Recently, I came across a blog post on my social media feed. It is found on Dr. Henry Cloud’s website teaching boundaries. The way the author–Dr. Cloud?–frames forgiveness is helpful. The article is entitled, “Just Because You Forgive, it Doesn’t Mean You Have to Trust Again.”  Three important points are laid out as follows, 1. Forgiveness … Continue reading “Thoughts on Forgiveness”

When the choice to divorce wasn’t yours…

When the choice wasn’t yours, you may still have people asking and blaming you for it. Such blaming is not biblical! Scripture is clear that we are responsible for our own actions and sins (see 2 Corinthians 5:10). We do not answer for another’s. It is a good way to go crazy trying to mind-read … Continue reading “When the choice to divorce wasn’t yours…”

Sin is sin. But what about justice and commonsense?

“Sin is sin.” – Christian Minimizing Adultery This is a saying that cheater apologists use to guilt faithful spouses into taking back their cheater. It is a minimization of adultery. Saying, “Sin is sin” is as stupid as saying, “A crime is a crime” then suggesting we should put speeders on the electric chair just … Continue reading “Sin is sin. But what about justice and commonsense?”

DM, This is a text from a friend…

DM, This is a text from my friend regarding my wife who has cheated on me with 4 men over the last 13 years. She is now repentant, running to God like her pants were on fire after I discovered the most recent affair. I feel like my Christian friends are putting it all on … Continue reading “DM, This is a text from a friend…”

THAT “friend”

After the Lord had finished speaking to Job, he said to Eliphaz the Temanite: “I am angry with you and your two friends, for you have not spoken accurately about me….” -Job 42:7a, NLT THAT “friend” said all sort of things to you…inaccurate about God (and you) like Job’s friends. Sometimes this is done out of ignorance. … Continue reading “THAT “friend””

Happy Reformation Day! 500 Year Anniversary.

“Here I stand; I can do no other.” – Martin Luther On this day five hundred years ago, Martin Luther famously nailed his 95 theses to the doors of Wittenberg church. Many mark this as the beginning of the Protestant Reformation(s). One man and his sincerely held convictions transformed the world. October 31st, 1517 was … Continue reading “Happy Reformation Day! 500 Year Anniversary.”

Forget the Script! Burn it.

The Christian family script that I was taught as a teenager goes something like this: Meet a Christian. Marry a Christian. Have children and build a life together ,forever. Then you will be blessed and considered wonderful by church folks. But that script is out of the reach of many faithful Christians. In fact, it … Continue reading “Forget the Script! Burn it.”