“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT I do NOT advocate bringing back the death penalty for adultery.* However, I DO believe something ought to exist legally to right the myriad of injustices faithful spouses … Continue reading “On Punishing Adultery”
Category: Sin
Outrage Over NOT Punishing Faithful Spouse MORE
Recently, the news has taken up a story coming from the Portugal courts about a faithful spouse who beat up his adulterous ex-wife. Here is CNN’s take on it (click here). The Portuguese judge dared take into consideration how the adultery impacted the accused when laying down the punishment for the crime he committed. What most of … Continue reading “Outrage Over NOT Punishing Faithful Spouse MORE”
Spiritual Battle!
Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. -I Peter 5:8, NLT When talking about infidelity, many fail to state an obvious spiritual truth: This is spiritual warfare! The Devil wants to devour Christians. I personally believe he is having great … Continue reading “Spiritual Battle!”
Not a communication problem. A SIN problem.
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV And Jesus replied: “‘You must not murder. You must not commit adultery. You must not steal. You must not testify falsely.” -Mathew 19:18, NLT A running “joke” among marriage therapists I understand is that every issue is a communication issue among couples. I disagree. Adultery is not a communication … Continue reading “Not a communication problem. A SIN problem.”
Therapy alone, a good marriage does NOT make!
If attending pre-marital counseling, marriage therapy, and individual therapy could make a good marriage, then my first marriage ought to have been amazing. It wasn’t. Instead, my current marriage with Mrs. DM–where we have attended nearly zero therapy sessions together–is thriving. Attending therapy does not make a good marriage. Other elements are far more important … Continue reading “Therapy alone, a good marriage does NOT make!”
“Do you hear yourself, cheater?”
“Do you hear yourself? That is what we call making excuses.” -Wise Pastor to Cheater Labeling matters appropriately does not only help the cheater, but it also helps their victim, the faithful spouse. Proper labels expose the deeds of the dark to light (see Ephesians 5:11). It is astounding to me how so-called Christian pastors … Continue reading ““Do you hear yourself, cheater?””
Possible. But likely? Doubt it.
As a dog returns to its vomit, so fools repeat their folly. -Proverbs 26:11, NIV Within the Christian community, so much pressure is placed upon faithful spouses to “reconcile” with their cheating partners. Sometimes lip service is given to the importance that the cheater has actually changed and will not cheat again. However, the general … Continue reading “Possible. But likely? Doubt it.”
Not responsible. Really.
Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. -James 1:14-15a, NLT (Emphasis mine) When seeking to retain my minister’s license, I was asked to explain what led to the breakdown of my marriage. To actually quote from the now defunct policy: “In your opinion, … Continue reading “Not responsible. Really.”
Lame Point: God never intended marriage to end in divorce.
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a … Continue reading “Lame Point: God never intended marriage to end in divorce.”
Conversion of Convenience
DM, One thing that I ran into while going to a Christian therapist was the Once Saved Always Saved teachings. I was told that since my “Christian X” refused repentance, restitution, and reconciliation that he was clearly never a Christian. Therefore, X doesn’t ever have to do the “three R’s”, he just needs to really … Continue reading “Conversion of Convenience”