One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. -Proverbs 18:24, NIV Today, I am writing a post about what I learned concerning friendships following my ex’s adultery and my divorce. These are lessons I learned from my personal experience, and I speak from … Continue reading “Reprise: Dealing with friends post-adultery and divorce”
Category: Sin
FACT: CHEATERS ARE MARRIAGE FLUNKIES!
“You shall not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, NIV (from The Ten Commandments) Fact: Cheaters are marriage flunkies. One of the most basic lessons in Christian marriage is adhering to this classic and consistent prohibition regarding sex with marriage outsiders. Cheaters have–spectacularly, in some cases–flunked this most basic of marriage lessons. Yet for some reason, … Continue reading “FACT: CHEATERS ARE MARRIAGE FLUNKIES!”
“Not Sorry” Looks Like a List!
How do you know if your cheater is truly repentant? Well, if he or she responds to being exposed by sharing a list of your “short-comings,” then the cheater is not likely repentant. The cheater might even agree that what he or she did was wrong. However, that acknowledgment is brushed aside so that he … Continue reading ““Not Sorry” Looks Like a List!”
Pro-Tip: If they are encouraging you to welcome others’ attention…
“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman.” -Job 31:1, NLT An adage among fidelity website(s) is how if a spouse suggests living in an “open marriage” that you already are in one. This same wisdom applies–in my opinion–to situations where a cheater suggests the faithful spouse … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: If they are encouraging you to welcome others’ attention…”
What if adultery was treated as the enemy more than divorce?!
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT What if adultery was treated as the enemy more than divorce in our churches?! A truly astounding teaching–whether spoken or implied–is how Christians treat divorce as a … Continue reading “What if adultery was treated as the enemy more than divorce?!”
Loving Well Matters Eternally!
Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ -Matthew 22:37-39, NLT In the midst of the real injustices and insults surrounding being cheated upon, faithful spouses often … Continue reading “Loving Well Matters Eternally!”
Cheaters and “Cheap Grace”
…cheap grace — “the preaching of forgiveness without requiring repentance.” Cheap grace wrongly separates absolution of sin from acknowledgment of that sin. -Katelyn Beaty, “The Mistake Christians Made in Defending Bill O’Reilly Cheaters and “cheap grace” Beaty’s article takes aim at some prominent conservatives and evangelical leaders. In particular, her article exposes the hypocrisy of … Continue reading “Cheaters and “Cheap Grace””
Not a Regrettable Footnote But More!
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV How can you miss it that bad?! How can someone read and understand the Bible yet treat adultery as a “regrettable footnote” to a marriage ending? It astounds me … Continue reading “Not a Regrettable Footnote But More!”
“Exit Affairs” and Faulting Thinking
And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also. -Jeremiah 3:8, KJV What I find especially troubling is how some people will call some affairs … Continue reading ““Exit Affairs” and Faulting Thinking”
Crossed the line sexually with another man
“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew 19:9, NIV In my trial to keep my minister’s license, I will never forget how the leading denominational official behaved. I had submitted an email from my ex-wife where she confirmed a reference to … Continue reading “Crossed the line sexually with another man”