When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you. -Isaiah 43:2, NLT What makes me so devoted to following Jesus? Like numerous … Continue reading “Fire Forged Friendship with God”
Category: Sin
God Uses Broken and Weak People – Ask Paul!
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” -2 Corinthians 12:9a, NIV The blogosphere has been ignited by Joe Carter’s “Beware of Broken Wolves” post at The Gospel Coalition website. I found the article disturbing. In particular, I was troubled when Carter wrote: But … Continue reading “God Uses Broken and Weak People – Ask Paul!”
Why put the adultery victim on trial for being victimized?
Why put the adultery victim on trial but not the cheater? One of the most backwards pieces in my ecclesiastical trial to retain my minister’s license was how I was on trial for being cheated on and divorced by my ex-wife. Even after such cheating and abandonment was established (my ex-wife was the one insisting … Continue reading “Why put the adultery victim on trial for being victimized?”
What about our unmet needs?!
When couples go to other Christians or pastors for help, the usual line of conversation focuses upon the “unmet” needs of the cheater. The assumptions behind such conversations include: 1) the faithful spouse is to blame for the cheating (in part) and 2) the faithful spouse did not have unmet needs (or they would have … Continue reading “What about our unmet needs?!”
The Pastoral Affirmation Need
A bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not snuff out. -Isaiah 42:3a, NIV Divorce Minister exists to a great part because it speaks to a need I felt in my darkest days. The need for pastoral affirmation and support while going through infidelity discovery and divorce. When my marriage was … Continue reading “The Pastoral Affirmation Need”
Gift of Courageous Confrontation
It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. -I Corinthians 5:12, NLT The path of least resistance with a cheater “friend” is to agree with their sob-story over how they “were driven” to cheat on their spouse. But that is NOT the … Continue reading “Gift of Courageous Confrontation”
Bravo: “Luv Guv” Bentley Bounced By Baptist Pastor
[Pastor] McKee asked [Former Governor] Bentley and Mason [Other Woman] to admit to the ongoing affair. They admitted a relationship, but refused to publicly confess, Hannah said. McKee then removed Bentley from his leadership roles in the church and asked Bentley and Mason to leave First Baptist Tuscaloosa. -Dakin Andone reporting (CNN) in “Alabama ‘Luv … Continue reading “Bravo: “Luv Guv” Bentley Bounced By Baptist Pastor”
Cheater-speak: “I didn’t mean to hurt you.”
“I didn’t mean to hurt you.” -Cheater Whether or not the cheated intended to hurt the faithful spouse does not change the fact that they did! Such a statement from a cheater is more about caring for the cheater than it is about caring for the faithful spouse. The cheater is trying to protect their self-image … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “I didn’t mean to hurt you.””
On Divorcing an Addict
But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. -I Corinthians 7:15, NKJV What ought a Christian do if he or she is married to someone with an opioid or meth addiction? ***IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER*** I am not … Continue reading “On Divorcing an Addict”
Mailbag: Repeated Emotional Affairs
Dear Divorce Minister, My husband has had emotional affairs during our marriage and has physically cheated once during the dating time while in a serious committed relationship (which was disclosed to the me 9 years into our marriage). While he says he’s never crossed the line physically during the marriage, there has been a series … Continue reading “Mailbag: Repeated Emotional Affairs”