Not one of you will enter the land I swore with uplifted hand to make your home, except Caleb son of Jephunneh and Joshua son of Nun. -Numbers 14:30, NIV While I hope my ex-wife finds repentance one day, I have moved on with my life. We will never be married again as I am … Continue reading “No Issues With Never Being Married To Her Again.”
Category: Sin
No Rest for the Wicked
So God’s rest is there for people to enter, but those who first heard this good news failed to enter because they disobeyed God. -Hebrews 4:6, NLT Rest and peace are not in the offering for those who choose disobedience over godliness. And those who truly are not bothered by their wicked deeds are the … Continue reading “No Rest for the Wicked”
Relax, Be Still, And Remember He Is God!
“’Be still, and know that I am God….’” – Psalm 46:10b, NIV When I was in the shock stage, I often found myself drawing a warm bath with lavender bath salts to ease my stress. I would play worship music to encourage my soul as I soaked in the tub before or after I … Continue reading “Relax, Be Still, And Remember He Is God!”
Careful in Sharing
Not everyone deserves to hear your story. It is a privilege to be allowed entry into such an intimate and tender place. One of the hardest lessons I am still learning is to hold what I know closer to my chest. In other words, I tend to the “over share” spectrum of sharing. I am … Continue reading “Careful in Sharing”
Memories Remain
*DM on August 19, 2006. Today is a sad day for me. It was a day of celebration eleven years ago. Today was my first wedding day. I am amazed that even eleven years–and all the awfulness involved–does not obliterate the memories of that day. Our memories are fascinating things. I can still recall moments … Continue reading “Memories Remain”
“She cheated. I am not surprised,” says Outside Observer
“She cheated. I’m not surprised. He should have paid her more attention.” -Outside Observer “He cheated on her. I’m not surprised. She really let herself go.” – Outside Observer These sort of observations are examples of victim blaming. JUST DON’T!!! Such Outside Observers are trading on the false notion that circumstances cause cheating as opposed … Continue reading ““She cheated. I am not surprised,” says Outside Observer”
God did not author this! She did.
Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. – James 1:13, NKJV God did not author this! She did. An unfortunate consequence of allowing human freedom is allowing humans to make sinful choices. Those choices belong to … Continue reading “God did not author this! She did.”
Mistake Made In Re-Engaging
The Other Man was discovered. I wrote a letter to my (then) wife letting her know I would not tolerate her cheating anymore. She could either choose to work to prove to me that her cheating days were over, or she could expect me to terminate my relationship–friendship included–with her permanently. Obviously, she chose the … Continue reading “Mistake Made In Re-Engaging”
Taylor Swift, Sexual Assault, and Adultery Victim Blaming Parallels
Recently, Taylor Swift testified in a court case where a DJ was suing her for losing his job. This DJ, David Mueller, had grabbed Taylor Swift’s bottom–i.e. sexually assaulted her–and got fired over this unacceptable behavior by his employer (more info here). Taylor was testifying about her feelings regarding his firing. Essentially, she makes it … Continue reading “Taylor Swift, Sexual Assault, and Adultery Victim Blaming Parallels”
Dear DM, I just don’t know what to do….
Dear DM, Please I need your help…. I am a 25 year old female who is in a 1 year relationship with a 52 year old man, but that’s not inherently where the issue lies…. The man I am dating is a pastor. And he is married. I met him when the pastor at the … Continue reading “Dear DM, I just don’t know what to do….”