“God never commands us to divorce a cheater.” – Christian “expert” “Technically true, God never explicitly commands us to divorce a cheater. BUT God DOES repeatedly and explicitly command His people to put adulterous cheaters to death!” -Divorce Minister. I am so tired of hearing pastors and other Christian “experts” spout off to faithful spouses … Continue reading “Christian “Expert”: “God never commands us to divorce a cheater.””
Category: Sin
Seared Consciences
But the [Holy] Spirit explicitly and unmistakably declares that in later times some will turn away from the faith…[misled] by the hypocrisy of liars whose consciences are seared as with a branding iron [leaving them incapable of ethical functioning]…. -I Timothy 4:1a,2, AMP When a cheater is telling their spouse, pastor, and/or Christian counselor that … Continue reading “Seared Consciences”
Pastors, please do not assume the affair is over!
Just because a cheater has agreed to see a Christian counselor or pastor to work on the marriage does not necessarily mean the cheater has ended the affair. It boggles my mind to think a cheater would attend Christian marriage counseling with a therapist or pastor while secretly continuing to cheat. But it happens! I know … Continue reading “Pastors, please do not assume the affair is over!”
Analogy: So, if a murderer kills a sick person, does that mean she isn’t a murderer?!
Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! -I Corinthians 6:15, NLT Christians seem especially shy in assigning blame to a cheater for destroying his or her marriage. Many seem to believe or operate … Continue reading “Analogy: So, if a murderer kills a sick person, does that mean she isn’t a murderer?!”
Making One’s Own Fires Ends Poorly!
Listen carefully, all you who kindle your own fire [devising your own man-made plan of salvation], Who surround yourselves with torches, Walk by the light of your [self-made] fire And among the torches that you have set ablaze. But this you will have from My hand: You will lie down in [a place of] torment. … Continue reading “Making One’s Own Fires Ends Poorly!”
Cheaters and “The False Gospel of Self-Fulfillment”
See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy…. -Colossians 2:8a, NIV Recently, I came across a fascinating article in Christianity Today by Jen Pollock Michel entitled “Glennon Doyle Melton’s Gospel of Self-Fulfillment: Why living your truth bravely isn’t enough.” The article takes aim at the thinking espoused by famous Momastery blogger, … Continue reading “Cheaters and “The False Gospel of Self-Fulfillment””
When hating is godly….
Let those who love the LORD hate evil, for he guards the lives of his faithful ones and delivers them from the hand of the wicked. -Psalm 97:10, NIV Like anger, hate often is treated as always wrong among Christians. It is not! Here in Psalm 97, we have a command to hate. In fact, it … Continue reading “When hating is godly….”
Cheaters Choose To Harden Their Hearts
And Pharaoh hardened his heart at this time also, neither would he let the people go. -Exodus 8:32, KJV Cheaters become cheaters by going down “The Road of Bad Choices.” They have hard hearts because they have chosen to harden their hearts just as Pharaoh did. I make this point for two reasons: 1) I suspect … Continue reading “Cheaters Choose To Harden Their Hearts”
Break the cycle…Start anew!
See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? -Isaiah 43:19a, NIV Reports regarding cycles of infidelity are not uncommon stories here. This is a sad but true statement. -Maybe your wife had multiple emotional affairs and this last one you caught her making it physical. You now … Continue reading “Break the cycle…Start anew!”
I am happier divorced.
Christians, pastors, and Christian counselors often paint divorce as such a horrible thing. It is as if divorced people are viewed as almost permanently damaged or forever morally tainted by virtue of being divorced. Guess what? I have a confession to make… Divorcing my cheating first wife did not doom me to a sad existence … Continue reading “I am happier divorced.”