“But I DID burn his evening meal,” says battered wife. What happens when your Cheater does actually touch on a real complaint about you? Most of us are rather introspective individuals as faithful spouses. We are probably painfully aware of our own faults and failures. So, it is especially disorienting in this time when your … Continue reading “But I did burn his evening meal…”
Category: Sin
No forgiveness without wrongs acknowledged
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” -I John 1:9, KJV What good is forgiveness to someone who does not think he or she did anything wrong? It is worthless. They are not in bondage to a conscience warning them … Continue reading “No forgiveness without wrongs acknowledged”
Know no shame
But the Lord is still there in the city, and he does no wrong. Day by day he hands down justice, and he does not fail. But the wicked know no shame. -Zephaniah 3:5, NLT Cheaters often have no shame. Like the wicked in this passage, they continue on their path of destruction without a second thought … Continue reading “Know no shame”
On “Sin-Leveling”
If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. -I John 1:8, NIV “Sin-Leveling” is an argument that trades on fallacious reasoning. The argument goes that all sin is equal or on the same “level.” Your lie about how how much you spent on your last trip to … Continue reading “On “Sin-Leveling””
Marriage Miracles More Sexy
For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. … A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones. A time to embrace and a time to turn away. -Ecclesiastes 3:1,5, NLT Purveying marriage miracles is more sexy than facing natural consequences. I feel this with this ministry. It … Continue reading “Marriage Miracles More Sexy”
Usually so much worse!
So, your Cheater cops to an “emotional affair” after you discovered compromising messages and confronted them. Are you sure that’s all it was?! I know we want to believe that was all it was. That was where I was at in my first marriage for a long time. I did not want to believe it … Continue reading “Usually so much worse!”
Cheater Smugness
Stone is heavy and sand a burden, but a fool’s provocation is heavier than both. -Proverbs 27:3, NIV Pride is the primary sin of Cheaters, in my opinion. That is why repentance requires humility. It is the opposite of what got them into the mess they created. Cheaters need to humbly approach their victims if … Continue reading “Cheater Smugness”
Bad Enough FOR YOU!
Your Cheater does not need to be a total monster in order to be bad for you. I suspect most Cheaters (if not all) have some “redeeming” qualities about themselves. If they didn’t, we probably never would have married them in the first place. They are mix–like all of us–of good and bad traits. But … Continue reading “Bad Enough FOR YOU!”
Cheater Tantrum Over Wearing Wedding Ring
“How dare you insist I wear my wedding ring!” -Petulant Cheater A cheater may take off her ring in order to avoid the constant reminder of her marriage vows. This symbolic act speaks volumes. There is a reason we exchange rings in marriage ceremonies. The symbol is indicative of the vows exchanged between the couple … Continue reading “Cheater Tantrum Over Wearing Wedding Ring”
Reject Divorce Shame!
Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away [i.e. divorce her] privily. -Matthew 1:19, KJV If you grew up in a church where divorce was taught as always wrong, you may find it hard to NOT internalize divorce shame and stigma. … Continue reading “Reject Divorce Shame!”