Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues. -Proverbs 17:28 More Christians could learn from that fool from Proverbs 17:28 who held his tongue when it comes to marriages ravaged by adultery. Sadly, the advice and condemnation come all too freely for faithful spouses. Here a few … Continue reading “Stupid Stuff (Naive) Christians Say”
Category: Sin
What’s up with that cheater rage?!
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. -Proverbs 29:11, NIV What’s up with that cheater rage?! You know: It is the rage that shows up when the cheater is caught red-handed. Instead of coming clean, the cheater comes after the faithful spouse with anger and a mean, demeaning … Continue reading “What’s up with that cheater rage?!”
Don’t fall for this one!
“In those days people will no longer say, ‘The parents have eaten sour grapes, and the children’s teeth are set on edge.’ Instead, everyone will die for their own sin; whoever eats sour grapes—their own teeth will be set on edge.” -Jeremiah 31:29-30, NIV I open with this passage to remind us of God’s idea … Continue reading “Don’t fall for this one!”
Mailbag: Is NOT divorcing my unrepentant cheater a sin?
“Not filing to divorce an unrepentant cheating spouse is also enabling but do you think it’s dishonoring Christ by not filing? Also, if that is the case (enabling and dishonoring Christ) wouldn’t not filing actually be a sin and against Gods will?” -Eric Eric, That’s a good set of questions. Let me boil them down to … Continue reading “Mailbag: Is NOT divorcing my unrepentant cheater a sin?”
Not nearly angry enough…with her!
God judgeth the righteous, and God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, KJV If anything, I was too mellow when it came to my (now) ex-wife’s cheating behavior! Most of my anger was directed at the proxy agents used by her to manipulate the narrative and keep me unbalanced. They did sinful … Continue reading “Not nearly angry enough…with her!”
Reminder: Adultery is Downright Demonic
“You are of your father the devil, and you want to do the desires of your father. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth because there is no truth in him. Whenever he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own nature, for he is a liar and the father of lies.” – John 8:44, NASB. If … Continue reading “Reminder: Adultery is Downright Demonic”
On Using “Biblical” Counseling Only
As for these four children, God gave them knowledge and skill in all learning and wisdom: and Daniel had understanding in all visions and dreams. …And in all matters of wisdom and understanding, that the king inquired of them, he found them ten times better than all the magicians and astrologers that were in all … Continue reading “On Using “Biblical” Counseling Only”
At what point does a faithful spouse become an enabler?
And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will … Continue reading “At what point does a faithful spouse become an enabler?”
Pastors OUGHT to be the best professionals to address adultery!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -from the Ten Commandments (e.g. Exodus 20:14, KJV) Committing adultery is a sin. In fact, one cannot commit adultery without sinning in other ways including coveting, lying, stealing, and idolatry–i.e. worshiping something or someone as more important than God. A pastor ought to be the professional best equipped to understand and … Continue reading “Pastors OUGHT to be the best professionals to address adultery!”
A Conspicuous Absence In Pastoral Training!
If you spent even a little time looking over the required curriculum for M.Div. students at most evangelical seminaries, you will notice a heavy emphasis on Biblical languages and Scripture exegesis. In my former denomination, this emphasis is reflected in their ordaining process, which pushes candidates to memorize Scripture for each doctrine of interest to the … Continue reading “A Conspicuous Absence In Pastoral Training!”