“You are saying bad things about me!” – Cheater My cheater was very upset when she discovered this blog. She was so upset that she hired a lawyer and attempted to shut it down (or at least, she attempted to shut down any conversation about her infidelity). Her claims via her lawyer were that it was libel … Continue reading ““You are saying bad things about me!””
Category: Sin
Privileged To Be In Pastor’s Office And NOT Court Room!
This is what the Lord says: “Was your mother sent away because I divorced her? Did I sell you as slaves to my creditors? No, you were sold because of your sins. And your mother, too, was taken because of your sins. -Isaiah 50:1, NLT A major reason cheaters feel entitled to put faithful spouses … Continue reading “Privileged To Be In Pastor’s Office And NOT Court Room!”
Entitled and Arrogant!
Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. Do ye think that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy? But he giveth more grace. Wherefore … Continue reading “Entitled and Arrogant!”
“Toxic Shame” Excuse
Rid yourselves of all the offenses you have committed, and get a new heart and a new spirit. Why will you die, people of Israel? For I take no pleasure in the death of anyone, declares the Sovereign Lord. Repent and live! -Ezekiel 18:31-32, NIV How does the “toxic shame” excuse work? It is actually … Continue reading ““Toxic Shame” Excuse”
Bitter? Naw. Blessed, I am.
When things go sour with some commentators here on Divorce Minister, the person is quick to pull out the “bitter card” or suggest I need more time to heal. The funny thing about that sort of ad hominem (“to the man”) fallacious assault is how crazy it is. They have only a partial picture of who I am … Continue reading “Bitter? Naw. Blessed, I am.”
Insidious Insanity Surrounding False Sin Equivalencies
“If people are fighting and hit a pregnant woman and she gives birth prematurely but there is no serious injury, the offender must be fined whatever the woman’s husband demands and the court allows. But if there is serious injury, you are to take life for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot … Continue reading “Insidious Insanity Surrounding False Sin Equivalencies”
“Of course, her cheating on you was wrong. But we both know you contributed your own sins to the marriage as well.”
“Of course, her cheating on you was wrong. But we both know you contributed your own sins to the marriage as well.” -Concerned Christian “friend” This sort of response to adultery is wrong on multiple levels: First, this sort of response indicates the speaker is equating sins via suggesting the faithful spouse’s sin(s) in the … Continue reading ““Of course, her cheating on you was wrong. But we both know you contributed your own sins to the marriage as well.””
Yes, it happened. Yes, you didn’t deserve it.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV “Yes, it happened. She cheated on you. And yes, you didn’t deserve it. It’s not your fault.” You really want to help a faithful spouse. These are the sort … Continue reading “Yes, it happened. Yes, you didn’t deserve it.”
Holding The Tension On Divorce
To the faithful you show yourself faithful, to the blameless you show yourself blameless, to the pure you show yourself pure, but to the devious you show yourself shrewd. You save the humble but bring low those whose eyes are haughty. -Psalm 18:25-27, NIV A tension is present when it comes to the question … Continue reading “Holding The Tension On Divorce”
Denial Is Not Always A Bad Thing!
For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age…. -Titus 2:11-12, NKJV (emphasis mine) Then said Jesus unto his disciples, “If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take … Continue reading “Denial Is Not Always A Bad Thing!”