Being Abandoned And Still Shamed for the Divorce

“For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.” – Malachi 2:16, ESV Some of us have had the double-whammy of having our former spouse both … Continue reading “Being Abandoned And Still Shamed for the Divorce”

Dear Divorce Minister…Please help me to create some clarity in this mess.

Dear Divorce Minister,   I moved to Africa 8 years ago to join my African husband (married 6 yrs, no children). There was no way he would have moved in my direction as he was passionate about his job in Africa. I accepted that and gave up my job, house & country with friends and … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister…Please help me to create some clarity in this mess.”

Anti-Divorce Focus Is Lazy Pastoring

Let’s be honest here: It is easier to identify people who are divorced than people who are committing adultery. Adulterous spouses are notorious for hiding their cheating ways with various levels of success. However, with a divorce, a public stance is made. The marriage relationship is officially over in the eyes of the state. And … Continue reading “Anti-Divorce Focus Is Lazy Pastoring”

Adultery Is NOT A Symptom But A Sin

Adultery is not a symptom but the disease. It is sin. Adultery is not a cry for help. Adultery is not a symptom of a bad relationship. Adultery is not a mercy blow to a miserable marriage (as if the adulterer is “taking one for the team.”) No, no, no, NO! Adultery is sin. Period. … Continue reading “Adultery Is NOT A Symptom But A Sin”