“Defensive,” “Over sensitive,” “emotional,” “up in your feelings,” etc. These are the sort of labels people make of victims in order to avoid the awkward work of looking at the actual misbehavior. It’s very dismissive of the pain faithful spouses are experiencing to treat them like this. I have experienced labels like these over the … Continue reading “Buzz words of dismissal”
Category: Sin
Choosing a pastor
Let them alone: they be blind leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch. -Matthew 15:14, KJV I wish I could say an older pastor will be more discerning and wiser than a younger pastor on matters of adultery and divorce. But that would be a … Continue reading “Choosing a pastor”
Intangible Losses
20 You have allowed me to suffer much hardship, but you will restore me to life again and lift me up from the depths of the earth. 21 You will restore me to even greater honor and comfort me once again. -Psalm 71:20-21, NLT Intangible Losses Some of the losses that come with divorcing your Cheater are … Continue reading “Intangible Losses”
Accused of being “manipulative”
Oh, the joys of those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or stand around with sinners, or join in with mockers. -Psalm 1:1, NLT Cheaters often project their own treacherous behavior or character upon their marks. This is what is happening, in my opinion, when Cheaters call faithful spouses “manipulative.” They are … Continue reading “Accused of being “manipulative””
Lying into Liars.
Outside the city are the dogs–the sorcerers, the sexually immoral, the murderers, the idol worshipers, and all who love to live a lie. -Revelation 22:15, NLT Lie to Liar. At some point, I believe God gives Cheaters over to their lies. They no longer are people telling lies. They are liars. The lie is what … Continue reading “Lying into Liars.”
In Mammon they trust!
24 No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon. -Matthew 6:24, KJV 24 “No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other; you will … Continue reading “In Mammon they trust!”
Foolish Cheater
Don’t be so stupid as to think you can get away with your adultery. It will destroy your life, and you’ll pay the price for the rest of your days. -Proverbs 6:32, TPT Some Cheaters are so drunk on their pride that they believe no one will discover their adulterous sins. This is really sad. … Continue reading “Foolish Cheater”
Moments of lucidity
20 All who do evil hate the light and refuse to go near it for fear their sins will be exposed. 21 But those who do what is right come to the light so others can see that they are doing what God wants. -John 3:20-21, NLT In my experience, Cheaters sometimes tell on themselves in little moments … Continue reading “Moments of lucidity”
All trust torched
“You have not taken care of the weak. You have not tended the sick or bound up the injured. You have not gone looking for those who have wandered away and are lost. Instead, you have ruled them with harshness and cruelty.” -Ezekiel 34:4, NLT What is more harsh or cruel than to blame–i.e. condemn–a … Continue reading “All trust torched”
New attention to looks!
New attention to their appearance A telltale sign of cheating is a new found focus on one’s appearance. This might manifest via going on a diet, increased exercise routine, or changing hair colors and style. In and of itself, this does not equate to cheating. However, the motive behind these changes is worth considering. I … Continue reading “New attention to looks!”