Seek the Lord while He may be found, Call upon Him while He is near. Let the wicked forsake his way, And the unrighteous man his thoughts; Let him return to the Lord, And He will have mercy on him; And to our God, For He will abundantly pardon. -Isaiah 55:6-7, NKJV Is God doing this forgiveness thing wrong here? … Continue reading “Is God doing forgiveness wrong, then?!”
Category: Sin
Adultery is truly evil!
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. – I Corinthians 13:11, KJV It is past time the pastors and church leaders wake up and grow up. We live in a world … Continue reading “Adultery is truly evil!”
Blinding Arrogance and Contempt
21 On the appointed day Herod, wearing his royal robes, sat on his throne and delivered a public address to the people. 22 They shouted, “This is the voice of a god, not of a man.” 23 Immediately, because Herod did not give praise to God, an angel of the Lord struck him down, and he was eaten by worms and … Continue reading “Blinding Arrogance and Contempt”
First Step: Admitting and Owning Wrong
No one who lives in him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him. -I John 3:6, NIV Does the cheater willingly admit the cheating was sin? Or is the cheating minimized as something less than wrong? Does the cheater try to “justify” the cheating and lying as “not … Continue reading “First Step: Admitting and Owning Wrong”
Can be one’s sole decision.
It only takes one to end the marriage. So often this fact is missed in the evangelical church. They teach as if both have a say in the marriage ending. That is simply not always the case. Many have experienced the double trauma of being cheated on and then discarded by the cheater. Without knowing … Continue reading “Can be one’s sole decision.”
The REAL problem!
Listen to this catchy new country song by Cam: The temptation is to blame the other person involved with our cheater. It is easier to focus our rage at them as opposed to the real source of our hurt. The cheater. I love the lyrics in this song talking about blaming the Other Woman as … Continue reading “The REAL problem!”
Cheated On Support Group Coming!!!
Cheated On Support Group Starting Tuesday, May 7th! At Destiny Church, Rochester, MN I have decided that it is time to launch an in-person support group for faithful spouses and their supporters. This support group will start in Rochester (MN), and I will see what response I find from folks. If it goes well, I … Continue reading “Cheated On Support Group Coming!!!”
Skipping over the injustice part
Hate evil and love what is good; turn your courts into true halls of justice. Perhaps even yet the Lord God of Heaven’s Armies will have mercy on the remnant of his people. -Amos 5:15, NLT I am a firm believer that injustice must first be acknowledged before we can heal from it. This step is often skipped in … Continue reading “Skipping over the injustice part”
Cheater-Speak: “I never intended to hurt you.”
“I never intended to hurt you,” says Cheater. Did you get this line (or a version of it) from your Cheater? These disordered freaks actually think this makes things better. They say this as a way to get a “pass” of sorts for their nasty, wicked behavior. They are–again–protecting themselves at the cost of caring … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I never intended to hurt you.””
Just Do NOT Engage!
Don’t answer the foolish arguments of fools, or you will become as foolish as they are. -Proverbs 26:4, NLT If someone is not willing to listen, save your breath. They have made up their mind, and you are best moving on. You do not need to stick your head into that mind-blender. Move on. Let … Continue reading “Just Do NOT Engage!”