“I was afraid you would get angry. That is why I did not tell you [I was cheating on you].” -Cheater Isn’t it amazing how a Cheater can make their lying your fault? Now, we know their lies are their lies. However, Cheaters are adept at shifting blame. In this mind trick: The speaker is blaming their … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I was afraid you would get angry…””
Category: Sin
My ministry philosophy
35 Jesus went through all the towns and villages, teaching in their synagogues, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom and healing every disease and sickness. 36 When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. -Matthew 9:35-36, NIV My hurt is burdened for those who are … Continue reading “My ministry philosophy”
Terror of financial dependence
The terror of financial dependence is real. One way a nasty Cheater takes out their covert anger on a faithful spouse is to use their financial power over them. When the Cheater is the primary breadwinner, a new terror enters the equation with infidelity discovery: What will I do to meet my needs if they … Continue reading “Terror of financial dependence”
What went wrong? Adulterous abuse is what.
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Christians need not dig very deep to figure out what went wrong in a marriage when adultery occurred. Modern psychology and so called “Christian” counseling might disagree with me. However, I am very adamant that we do not treat adultery as a side issue or symptom to … Continue reading “What went wrong? Adulterous abuse is what.”
Thou Shalt NOT Divorce?!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV The way many pastors preach about divorce you would be forgiven if you thought this verse from the Ten Commandments read: “Thou shalt not divorce!” This is a problem. It means we have a poor theology of marriage and divorce in our churches. Victims of adultery are … Continue reading “Thou Shalt NOT Divorce?!”
“Wilting Daisy” Ploy
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. – I Corinthians 13:11, NIV Let’s get something straight… A crushed “delicate flower” or a “bruised reed” does not have the energy … Continue reading ““Wilting Daisy” Ploy”
“I’m not gonna pick a side,” says Christian “friend.”
“I ‘m not gonna pick sides in this,” says a Christian “friend.” A person saying this is communicating to the adultery victim that they think something could justify their victimization. Let’s be clear: They ARE picking a side. It is the side of the adulterous spouse. This helps evil flourish. This is not a godly … Continue reading ““I’m not gonna pick a side,” says Christian “friend.””
Friend like the ones Job had
After the Lord had finished speaking to Job, he said to Eliphaz the Temanite: “I am angry with you and your two friends, for you have not spoken accurately about me….” -Job 42:7a, NLT THAT “friend” said all sort of things to you… …they were inaccurate about God (and you) just like Job’s friends. Sometimes this is … Continue reading “Friend like the ones Job had”
Made a humiliating list
When I was separated from my cheater, I made a list. It is humiliating looking back on it. I wrote up a list of reasons for why I wanted to stay married to her (even though, I knew she was a cheater). As you might have guessed, she responded to it with contempt. In part, … Continue reading “Made a humiliating list”
PSA: The real shame is committing adultery, Pastors!
But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away. -Proverbs 6:32-33, NIV The real shame is not faithful spouses divorcing cheaters, pastors. The real shame is Christians committing adultery! Preaching or counseling against divorce is a little late when it comes … Continue reading “PSA: The real shame is committing adultery, Pastors!”