“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from … Continue reading “Is God always on the side of the marriage?”
Category: Theology of divorce
“I don’t want to pick sides.” – “Friend”
“I don’t want to pick sides in this,” says a Christian “friend.” A person saying this is communicating to the adultery victim that they think something could justify their victimization. Let’s be clear: They ARE picking a side. It is the side of the adulterous spouse. This is not a godly response to faithful spouses seeking … Continue reading ““I don’t want to pick sides.” – “Friend””
Pastors, committing adultery is the real shameful act here!
But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away. -Proverbs 6:32-33, NIV The real shame is not faithful spouses divorcing cheaters, pastors. The real shame is Christians committing adultery! Preaching or counseling against divorce is a little late when it comes … Continue reading “Pastors, committing adultery is the real shameful act here!”
Children Deserve the Truth
Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices…. -Colossians 3:9, NIV A lie to a child is still a lie. As Christians, we are to be people who speak truth and not lies. This applies to children of divorce following infidelity. A lie is a lie. Now, we … Continue reading “Children Deserve the Truth”
“I’m sure there were issues on both sides…”
“I’m sure there were issues on both sides. There always are.” -Christian “friend” One of the many things that astound me with this all too common response from other Christians regarding a divorce is how cheap they sell out their so called “friends.” Do you think so little of your Christian friends that you believe … Continue reading ““I’m sure there were issues on both sides…””
“Why did she HAVE TO leave?”
“Why did she HAVE TO leave?” – Cheater Apologist This is a loaded question. If you even attempt to answer the question, you will lose. No good ways to answer this question exist. It is like the classic loaded question: “When will you stop beating your wife?” Like this question assuming that you are beating … Continue reading ““Why did she HAVE TO leave?””
Must Choose…So Infuriating!
“And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery–unless his wife has been unfaithful.” -Matthew 19:9, NLT Cheaters want “to have their cake and eat it, too.” And I think this is doubly so with religious cheaters. They want to cheat AND maintain an image as if they are … Continue reading “Must Choose…So Infuriating!”
I am a man, not a child. Talk to me accordingly!
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. -I Corinthians 13:11, KJV Something about the infidelity and divorce surviving experience seems to encourage other Christians to see themselves as our parents. This … Continue reading “I am a man, not a child. Talk to me accordingly!”
PSA: In the room…
Public Service Announcement: In the room where divorced or nearly divorced Christians meet, you will likely find some who were discarded for another and abandoned against their will. Pastors and other Christian leaders working with this population need to sensitize themselves to this reality. Not everyone at a divorce support group chose divorce. Some of us were … Continue reading “PSA: In the room…”
An Analogy: If you were violently mugged….
Some Christians do not get “it.” In fact, pastors and Christian counselors can be some of the worse offenders as it comes to spiritually abusing faithful spouses. I cannot imagine most pastors or therapists dispensing the same sort of advice if faced with a different situation of abuse. Yet they think they are dispensing “wisdom,” … Continue reading “An Analogy: If you were violently mugged….”