Father to the fatherless, defender of widows— this is God, whose dwelling is holy. God places the lonely in families; he sets the prisoners free and gives them joy. But he makes the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land. -Psalm 68:5-6, NLT “Broken” Home Shaming I call it “Broken Home Shaming” because I notice how … Continue reading ““Broken” Home Shaming”
Category: Theology of divorce
Stacked Deck
Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves; ensure justice for those being crushed. Yes, speak up for the poor and helpless, and see that they get justice. -Proverbs 31:8-9, NLT When you have just discovered your spouse of x years has cheated on you, it is hard to make good choices and not … Continue reading “Stacked Deck”
It’s the choices, Stupid!
“A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things. But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.” -Matthew 12:35-36, KJV Follow … Continue reading “It’s the choices, Stupid!”
Destructive Narrative: Horny Christian Husbands
The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. – I Corinthians 7:3, NLT So much I was taught about marriage and sexuality growing up in the evangelical church pit husbands against wives in regards to sex in a marriage. Almost always, I heard stories that cast the … Continue reading “Destructive Narrative: Horny Christian Husbands”
Returning Victims To Their Soul Rapists
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” … Continue reading “Returning Victims To Their Soul Rapists”
Love may wait…but it does not guarantee happily ever after!
I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. – I Corinthians 7:8-9, KJV Love may wait to have sex… …but waiting does not guarantee your marriage will not … Continue reading “Love may wait…but it does not guarantee happily ever after!”
I don’t want YOU to work it out…
“I don’t want you to work it out… …if your adulterous spouse is unrepentant. I simply do not.” I wish more pastors would take this stance and verbalize it to their congregants. It is very Biblical (e.g. Jeremiah 3:8, Ezekiel 18:20, 2 Corinthians 5:10, Matthew 19:9, Hebrews 13:4, etc.). However, I am aware that for some pastors … Continue reading “I don’t want YOU to work it out…”
Good Samaritan OR Religious Person?
“A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he was attacked by robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. So too, … Continue reading “Good Samaritan OR Religious Person?”
Pastors, It is NOT an “Either/Or!”
THE “EITHER/OR”: EITHER you support marriages OR you support those going through divorce. When Mrs. DM and I were at our former church, I proposed to offer my services in starting a divorce and separated support group to help those who had experienced or were experiencing divorce, separation, and/or were considering such. The senior leadership looked … Continue reading “Pastors, It is NOT an “Either/Or!””
“I am so thankful my wife puts up with me.”
“I’m so thankful that my wife puts up with me.” -Old-School Evangelical huband This statement may be true. Plus, in some ways, it is a harmless statement of gratitude for a wife who is willing to accept her husband–minor flaws and all. That is good. However, I have heard it stated by individuals that go … Continue reading ““I am so thankful my wife puts up with me.””