“God permits faithful spouses to divorce adulterous spouses. BUT He never commands it.” -Unhelpful Pastoral Advice This is technically true. God does not directly command anyone to divorce.* But before getting smug over one’s rightness on this matter consider what God does say regarding adulterous spouses: God commands His people to kill adulterous spouses! –see Deut. 22:22 … Continue reading “Unhelpful Observation: “God permits divorce, BUT He never commands it.””
Category: Theology of divorce
Get A Lawyer
When one of you has a dispute with another believer, how dare you file a lawsuit and ask a secular court to decide the matter instead of taking it to other believers! – I Corinthians 6:1, NLT “Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, … Continue reading “Get A Lawyer”
Invoking God’s Name
Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth … Continue reading “Invoking God’s Name”
When Tragedy Strikes A Pastor…
How evangelicals respond to tragedy in a pastor’s life says a lot about their character and real theology. It also speaks to their maturity and wisdom as a church or religious body. Sadly, I experienced and have heard many epic fails in this area. It is one thing to say that you love your pastor, and quite … Continue reading “When Tragedy Strikes A Pastor…”
Years of Infidelity Makes Godly Marriage Restoration Doubtful
The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in those who tell the truth. -Proverbs 12:22, NLT Recently, I was reading a book about apologies and forgiveness. It is a book by a well-known, evangelical Christian author. But I will neither name the author(s) or the book for the purpose of today’s post. Those details … Continue reading “Years of Infidelity Makes Godly Marriage Restoration Doubtful”
Embezzler Analogy Test
When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. – James 1:13-14, NIV Committing adultery is no more indicative of prior marriage problems than embezzling … Continue reading “Embezzler Analogy Test”
Not Everyone Is Reasonable
“Now think it over and see what you can do, because disaster is hanging over our master and his whole household. He is such a wicked man that no one can talk to him.” -Servant to Abigail, I Samuel 25:17, NIV This verse comes from the story of David, Abigail, and Nabal recorded in I … Continue reading “Not Everyone Is Reasonable”
Pastors Need To Say It
“From the least to the greatest, all are greedy for gain; prophets and priests alike, all practice deceit. They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. Are they ashamed of their detestable conduct? No, they have no shame at all; they … Continue reading “Pastors Need To Say It”
Dangerous Duggar Marital Sex Advice
This past Thursday, October 8th, 2015, Michelle Duggar–of reality show “19 Kids and Counting” fame–responded to fan mail asking for advice. She was particularly tackling the fan question of advice for a newlywed wife, Jill. Here’s the post. Before I went through my divorce, I might have agreed with everything Michelle writes in this post, … Continue reading “Dangerous Duggar Marital Sex Advice”
Why would you throw all that away?
On oath Esau traded away his rights as the firstborn. Jacob gave him bread and the stew of lentils. He ate and drank, got up and left. That’s how Esau shrugged off his rights as the firstborn. – Genesis 25:33b-34 (THE MESSAGE) “Why would you just throw away _x_ number of years of marriage?!” Obviously, … Continue reading “Why would you throw all that away?”