I didn’t have the words… …all I felt was incredible anger towards my (now) ex-Father-In-Law. That was my emotional state when I last encountered my xFIL. I did not have the words to articulate why I was so angry with him. My spirit screamed within me that this man was evil and had wronged me gravely. But … Continue reading “I didn’t have the words…”
Category: Theology of divorce
People’s Criticisms Say A Lot…
In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, But he who restrains his lips is wise. -Proverbs 10:19, NKJV People’s criticisms say a lot… …but not necessarily anything about the one criticized. This is a lesson impressed upon me during my formal training in clinical pastoral care. It is an important lesson to remember … Continue reading “People’s Criticisms Say A Lot…”
Breaking Up With Your Church
Forgive the corny Oldies reference here. I grew up listening to this sort of music as a kid, and I could not help but think of the opening line when processing this–albeit–serious topic of leaving a church. Breaking up is truly a hard thing to do. This past week Mrs. DM and I decided we needed to … Continue reading “Breaking Up With Your Church”
Innocence Lost
DM on his first wedding day (2006) None of my immediate family experienced divorce. We were a sheltered family system–i.e. from grandparents down to first cousins. Divorce had not visited its devastation directly upon us. That was until my marriage was shot in the head on December 12, 2012. I was raised that marriage was … Continue reading “Innocence Lost”
Why Do Only Cheaters Get “The Benefit Of The Doubt?”
Do not listen to an accusation against an elder unless it is confirmed by two or three witnesses. Those who sin should be reprimanded in front of the whole church; this will serve as a strong warning to others. – I Timothy 5:19-20, NLT Why do only adulterous spouses get the benefit of the doubt … Continue reading “Why Do Only Cheaters Get “The Benefit Of The Doubt?””
Presumption of Causation With Divorce
How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s … Continue reading “Presumption of Causation With Divorce”
Not Relevant To Congregation?!
“Thou shalt not commit adultery.” –God in Exodus 20:14, KJV According to a website drawing its numbers from the Associated Press plus Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 41% of marriages have minimally one spouse who admits to emotional and/or physical infidelity. Infidelity is a problem. And it is not a minor one. Scripture is clear that … Continue reading “Not Relevant To Congregation?!”
Movie “Divorce Corp.” Reflections
And in hell he lift up his eyes, being in torments, and seeth Abraham afar off, and Lazarus in his bosom. And he cried and said, “Father Abraham, have mercy on me, and send Lazarus, that he may dip the tip of his finger in water, and cool my tongue; for I am tormented in … Continue reading “Movie “Divorce Corp.” Reflections”
Post-Moral Failure: Commentary On Tullian Tchividjian Situation
Controversy still surrounds Tullian Tchividjian, Rev. Billy Graham’s grandson, months after his admission of committing marital unfaithfulness and being removed from pastoring the famed Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church. I first reported on this situation in my post entitled: “Comfort Affairs and Pastor Tullian Tchvidjian’s Tragic Fall.” Subsequently, Tullian has been defrocked–i.e stripped of his ordination … Continue reading “Post-Moral Failure: Commentary On Tullian Tchividjian Situation”
Mailbag: Keep Praying Or Let Him Go?
Confused wrote, In my case, no papers have been filed but we’re on our 3rd separation and this time my husband says that he knows 100% he wants a divorce. It’s clear that he’s had emotional affairs or at the very least has been having inappropriate friendships with other women. I’ve only known about these … Continue reading “Mailbag: Keep Praying Or Let Him Go?”