You who say that one must not commit adultery, do you commit adultery?…You who boast in the law dishonor God by breaking the law. For, as it is written, “The name of God is blasphemed among the Gentiles because of you.” – Romans 2:22a, 23-24, ESV My relationship with Jesus and reliance on the Bible saved … Continue reading “Hypocrisy Is An Old Problem”
Category: Theology of divorce
So What If They Do Not Come Back?
Jesus said to him, “If you would be perfect, go, sell what you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.” When the young man heard this he went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions. -Mt 19:21-22, ESV Jesus was not afraid to give people … Continue reading “So What If They Do Not Come Back?”
I am NOT FOR the marriage
When Joshua was by Jericho, he lifted up his eyes and looked, and behold, a man was standing before him with his drawn sword in his hand. And Joshua went to him and said to him, “Are you for us, or for our adversaries?” And he said, “No; but I am the commander of the … Continue reading “I am NOT FOR the marriage”
Too Much Advice!
Counsel Bombardment An aspect of my journey towards healing following adultery discovery and divorce was dealing with all the counsel I received. If anything, I was far too open to people’s advice in the early stages of my marriages disintegration. Part of this was a reflection of my passivity where I was not owning my … Continue reading “Too Much Advice!”
Advice To Other Pastors–Don’t Muddy the Water!
The one who sins is the one who will die. The child will not share the guilt of the parent, nor will the parent share the guilt of the child. The righteousness of the righteous will be credited to them, and the wickedness of the wicked will be charged against them. -Ezekiel 18:20, NIV So … Continue reading “Advice To Other Pastors–Don’t Muddy the Water!”
Dear Divorce Minister, What is the morally and spiritually right way to handle this?
Dear Divorce Minister, I was wondering if you could do a post about what is the morally and spiritually right thing to do in regard to telling people why the marriage broke down. My ex-husband was a pastor and we were well known in the area where I still live. He had an … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister, What is the morally and spiritually right way to handle this?”
God Hates Adultery More Than He Hates Divorce!
“I have seen your abominations, your adulteries and neighings, your lewd whorings, on the hills in the field. Woe to you, O Jerusalem! How long will it be before you are made clean?” -Jeremiah 13:27, ESV God Hates Adultery More Than He Hates Divorce. This is my response to Christian counselors and pastors who trot … Continue reading “God Hates Adultery More Than He Hates Divorce!”
Being Abandoned And Still Shamed for the Divorce
“For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.” – Malachi 2:16, ESV Some of us have had the double-whammy of having our former spouse both … Continue reading “Being Abandoned And Still Shamed for the Divorce”
Dear Divorce Minister…Please help me to create some clarity in this mess.
Dear Divorce Minister, I moved to Africa 8 years ago to join my African husband (married 6 yrs, no children). There was no way he would have moved in my direction as he was passionate about his job in Africa. I accepted that and gave up my job, house & country with friends and … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister…Please help me to create some clarity in this mess.”
Anti-Divorce Focus Is Lazy Pastoring
Let’s be honest here: It is easier to identify people who are divorced than people who are committing adultery. Adulterous spouses are notorious for hiding their cheating ways with various levels of success. However, with a divorce, a public stance is made. The marriage relationship is officially over in the eyes of the state. And … Continue reading “Anti-Divorce Focus Is Lazy Pastoring”