17 “I have perfumed my bed
With myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.
18 Come, let us take our fill of love until morning;
Let us delight ourselves with love.
19 For my husband is not at home;
He has gone on a long journey….”-Proverbs 7:17-19, NKJV
Unless your Cheater told you the day of the “deed,” you can be certain planning went into their adulterous deception of you.
I think faithful spouses often fall for the “it was an accident” or “I didn’t mean to hurt you” excuses of their Cheater. Believing the opposite would mean facing the truth that we married someone who did something monstrously wrong to us. We don’t want to believe our spouse is that calculatingly cruel!
Yet Cheaters are that calculatingly cruel.
It is not uncommon for Cheaters to cover their infidelity for months, if not years! That is a lot of lying and planning to keep the faithful spouse in the dark.
A Cheater lost their “benefit of a doubt” the moment they abused that trust by cheating.
Faithful spouses need to get this concept unless they want to be further abused and used by their Cheater. Their Cheater will continue to abuse that trust to get whatever they want. They have already demonstrated as much by cheating.
While the act of cheating may have happened impulsively, do not forget the lying cover up takes foresight and planning. It is calculated.
Plus, the Cheater made choices to put themselves in a situation where they could cheat. That was chosen, NOT impulsive.
Yes, Cheaters planned this evil. Never forget that!
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*A version of this post ran previously.
