To heal, we have to acknowledge the truth. The sad thing is our cheater may never actually do this. They might engage you in an endless battle over getting you to take responsibility for their abuse of you. That argument is one crazy ride. Refuse to take the bait. While helpful, you do not have … Continue reading “Crazy ride? No thanks.”
“Don’t die!” #truelove
This past weekend I competed in a bench press event in IL. I had to go alone since it was a busy weekend on the home front with a birthday party and prom for our kiddo and bonus kiddo. While Mrs. DM was fine with me competing this weekend, she was concerned about how I … Continue reading ““Don’t die!” #truelove”
Successful Hobby Day Yesterday!
Me under 235kgs/540lbs An important part of healing and de-stressing is finding a solid hobby. Mine is participating in equipped bench press competitions. For the past two years, I had been having trouble translating my training into scores in meets. I have “bombed out” of several equipped meets–i.e. failed to place a good lift. You … Continue reading “Successful Hobby Day Yesterday!”
Never really loved you
Some Cheaters are in loved with being loved. The value that they placed on their relationship with you was in how you adored and pursued them. As soon as that slipped, they started thinking about finding another supply of adoration. In other words, it was always about themselves. They never really loved you for you. … Continue reading “Never really loved you”
Complacent Cheating
This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth, And says, “I have done no wickedness.” -Proverbs 30:20, NKJV Cheaters can get complacent in their cheating. Because they have such big egos and such high contempt for their spouse, they may fail to keep up the deception. Their “game” slips and then … Continue reading “Complacent Cheating”
Seared Moments
Certain moments stay with us for a lifetime. They are seared into our memories in technicolor. I will never forget a walk I had near my old condominium in the city. While I was walking, I was talking on the phone with my now ex-wife. The walk and conversation are still with me today–over a … Continue reading “Seared Moments”
No Other Man Drama
So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; Whoever touches her shall not be innocent. -Proverbs 6:29, NKJV My Cheater loved the fantasy of being central and fought over for her affections. I know this as that was the take away for her from watching the awful movie, “Fireproof.” The scene of the husband fighting … Continue reading “No Other Man Drama”
Part II: Dr. Michael Brown Firefly Misconduct Report Analysis
“…LOF retains FIREFLY to conduct an independent investigation into allegations of sexually abusive misconduct by BROWN in his association with FIRE SCHOOL 2001 – 2002 (which is defunct as a campus school), LOF (or any other ministry where BROWN held a leadership position). While the scope of the investigation is focused on the period … Continue reading “Part II: Dr. Michael Brown Firefly Misconduct Report Analysis”
Part I: Dr. Michael Brown Firefly Misconduct Report Analysis
“On January 13, 2025, Firefly was contacted to conduct an independent investigation involving Michael Brown, founder of the Fire School of Ministryand The Line of Fire – Dr. Brown Ministries, Inc., alleging sexual misconduct toward two adult females within his ministry.” -James Holler, Jr., “Firefly Independent Sexual Abuse Investigations: Investigation into the Allegations of Sexually … Continue reading “Part I: Dr. Michael Brown Firefly Misconduct Report Analysis”
Happy Easter! Christ is risen!!!
Early on the first day of the week, while it was still dark, Mary Magdalene went to the tomb and saw that the stone had been removed from the entrance. -John 20:1, NIV My Cheater left me around Easter-time back over a decade ago. So, the holiday holds some complex emotions for me. So, if you … Continue reading “Happy Easter! Christ is risen!!!”