Your worth is not based on your cheater’s opinion of you. It is important to remember that you do not need to agree with your cheater. You are free to have your own opinions and views. This is true even if your cheater thinks otherwise. In that spirit, I share a song to encourage you: … Continue reading “You do not owe your cheater agreement!”
Author: Divorce Minister
Cheater-Speak: “I never intended….”
“I never intended to hurt you,” says Cheater. Did you get this line (or a version of it) from your cheater? These disordered freaks actually think this makes things better. They say this as a way to get a “pass” of sorts for their nasty, wicked behavior. Sorry, your intentions, don’t matter here. The impact … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I never intended….””
On fools and foolish arguments.
Don’t answer the foolish arguments of fools, or you will become as foolish as they are. -Proverbs 26:4, NLT If someone is not willing to listen, save your breath. They have made up their mind, and you are best moving on. You do not need to stick your head into that mind-blender. Move on. Let … Continue reading “On fools and foolish arguments.”
Capable of evil behavior.
There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword, But the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NASB Cheaters are capable of all sorts of evil in the effort to cover their sins. Pastors and other Christians need to become less naive on that matter. Cheaters are like addicts. They … Continue reading “Capable of evil behavior.”
Dear DM, Are second marriages adulterous?
Hi DM, I know that my comment would have almost nothing to do with your OG post, but I’ve been really struggling with this and I need your help. I’m a Pentecostal Christian, my wife let me years ago due to infidelity, she had lots of “lovers”, my life has been a mess since then … Continue reading “Dear DM, Are second marriages adulterous?”
A prayer to help in the healing process
Here’s a prayer I wrote for anyone struggling letting go of anger towards a cheater and their apologist(s). This prayer serves as a reminder that we have a say in letting go of our anger, which is based on our trust in God’s character. In my experience, we have to practice choosing to let go over and … Continue reading “A prayer to help in the healing process”
Stopping the sex is NOT enough!
While it is important that the cheating stops, the damage has already been done. Stopping is not the same as repairing. I think this needs to be said. The temptation exists to ignore the damage caused by the cheating as long as “it is over.” Why? The aftermath is not pleasant. It leads to uncomfortable … Continue reading “Stopping the sex is NOT enough!”
Hobby Milestone Yesterday – 605 lbs (274kg) on bench press (equipped)!
He trains my hands for battle; my arms can bend a bow of bronze. -Psalm 18:34, NIV Pastoring is a very non-concrete profession. It is hard sometimes to see progress. One thing I do for my own self-care is pursue my hobby as an amateur powerlifter. This is one hobby where you see your progress … Continue reading “Hobby Milestone Yesterday – 605 lbs (274kg) on bench press (equipped)!”
Never, EVER accept blame!
For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad. -2 Corinthian 5:10, KJV Never, ever concede to even partial blame when it comes to the cheating of your partner. If … Continue reading “Never, EVER accept blame!”
Not a matter of marrying too young!
Then Samuel asked, “Are these all the sons you have?” “There is still the youngest,” Jesse replied. “But he’s out in the fields watching the sheep and goats.” “Send for him at once,” Samuel said. “We will not sit down to eat until he arrives.” -I Samuel 16:11, NLT Not much has changed in years … Continue reading “Not a matter of marrying too young!”