Author: Divorce Minister

We all know it is quicksand…let’s address it then!

 But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn’t obey it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. -Matthew 7:26, NLT We all know it is a sandy foundation. This is the truth of trying to rebuild a marriage with the infidelity left unaddressed or treated as a “minor” problem. The marriage … Continue reading “We all know it is quicksand…let’s address it then!”

Cheater’s “Grace” as “Cheap Grace”

…cheap grace — “the preaching of forgiveness without requiring repentance.” Cheap grace wrongly separates absolution of sin from acknowledgment of that sin. -Katelyn Beaty, “The Mistake Christians Made in Defending Bill O’Reilly Cheaters and “cheap grace” Beaty’s article takes aim at some prominent conservatives and evangelical leaders. In particular, her article exposes the hypocrisy of … Continue reading “Cheater’s “Grace” as “Cheap Grace””

Triggering Advice: Husbands ought to “die” for their wives like Christ did the Church.

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her…. -Ephesians 5:25, NLT When I hear this verse cited by Evangelicals, I shudder internally.  This is a highly abused text. Evangelicals often use this as a proof text to control husbands. Obviously, this text teaches … Continue reading “Triggering Advice: Husbands ought to “die” for their wives like Christ did the Church.”

The Disconnect

Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?”  -Malachi 2:13-14a, NIV The disconnect between what some “Christians” say and do is astounding. -A cheater apologist can talk about righteous living while turning a … Continue reading “The Disconnect”

Adultery is the main event, NOT a “regrettable footnote” to the marriage’s demise.

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV How can you miss it that bad?! How can someone read and understand the Bible yet treat adultery as a “regrettable footnote” to a marriage ending? It astounds me … Continue reading “Adultery is the main event, NOT a “regrettable footnote” to the marriage’s demise.”

Old Testament Polygamy Loophole?

“I gave your master’s house to you, and your master’s wives into your arms. I gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more.”  -2 Samuel 12:8, NIV What do we make of God saying that He would have given King David more … Continue reading “Old Testament Polygamy Loophole?”

House sold. House bought. Now, unpacking.

Well, Mrs. DM and I are busy unpacking in our new home. God is so faithful. He did a work to both get our place to sell and for us to get this particular house. I am grateful. So much of surviving infidelity and thriving later, I believe, is not allowing the situation and religious … Continue reading “House sold. House bought. Now, unpacking.”