So the Lord blessed Job in the second half of his life even more than in the beginning. -Job 42:12a, NLT Faithful Spouses, we have a choice: Do we keep on allowing the cheater to be the central player in our life story or do we go out and take command of our story forging decisions … Continue reading “Make them a mere footnote to your awesome story”
Author: Divorce Minister
Whacked Out Crazy Cheaters
They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. -Jeremiah 6:14, NIV A common theme I’ve noticed over the years is how mental illness seems present with cheaters. They are often highly unstable types. Now, I am not a mental health provider and … Continue reading “Whacked Out Crazy Cheaters”
It was a hug for me.
“Goodbye in her eyes” by Zac Brown Band It wasn’t a kiss. It was a hug. We had just finished our dentist appointments. She had forgotten that she had made joint appointments. I had already confronted her about the Other Man about two weeks prior. She was still lying about him and still denying adultery. … Continue reading “It was a hug for me.”
Satire “Sermon” on Adultery
If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, KJV When adultery is committed, it hits the whole community. This is how the Bible teaches … Continue reading “Satire “Sermon” on Adultery”
Sing it and claim it in faith!
“My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand. My Father, which gave them me, is greater than all; and no man is able to pluck them out of my Father’s … Continue reading “Sing it and claim it in faith!”
More Vicious When Cheating
They demonstrate that God’s law is written in their hearts, for their own conscience and thoughts either accuse them or tell them they are doing right. -Romans 2:15, NLT Sometimes cheaters become crueler to their spouses when they are actively engaged in infidelity. They cheat and attend couples counseling where they tell the counselor or … Continue reading “More Vicious When Cheating”
Pro-Tip: Give up on trying to get narrative agreement!
A sage trying to work things out with a fool gets only scorn and sarcasm for his trouble. Proverbs 29:9, The Message When I was processing the end of my marriage and even while I was still fighting for it not to end in divorce, I wasted a lot of energy contending over the marriage narrative … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Give up on trying to get narrative agreement!”
Takes Two People: Job did NOT cheat!
Then his wife said to him, “Do you still hold fast to your integrity? Curse God and die!” But he said to her, “You speak as one of the foolish women speaks. Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?” – Job 2:9-10a, NKJV His wealth was all stolen. His … Continue reading “Takes Two People: Job did NOT cheat!”
“At just the right time”
You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. -Romans 5:6, NIV “At just the right time” I think we are conditioned as a species to think the “right time” is when we are able to “save ourselves.” We think that is when a partnership with God is appropriate. … Continue reading ““At just the right time””
Divorce rates are poor proxies. Stop lamenting them, pastors, please!
For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another! – Galatians 5:14-15, NKJV Lamenting divorce rates among Christians Likely, it is meant well. Good intentions are there, I am … Continue reading “Divorce rates are poor proxies. Stop lamenting them, pastors, please!”