Oh, the joys of those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or stand around with sinners, or join in with mockers. -Psalm 1:1, NLT Cheaters often project their own treacherous behavior or character upon their marks. This is what is happening, in my opinion, when Cheaters call faithful spouses “manipulative.” They are … Continue reading “Accused of being “manipulative””
Author: Divorce Minister
Lying into Liars.
Outside the city are the dogs–the sorcerers, the sexually immoral, the murderers, the idol worshipers, and all who love to live a lie. -Revelation 22:15, NLT Lie to Liar. At some point, I believe God gives Cheaters over to their lies. They no longer are people telling lies. They are liars. The lie is what … Continue reading “Lying into Liars.”
Odd ripples
When they saw Job from a distance, they scarcely recognized him. Wailing loudly, they tore their robes and threw dust into the air over their heads to show their grief. -Job 2:12, NLT A shared history is an underestimated loss in the story of a divorce from a Cheater. It creates odd ripples of grief. … Continue reading “Odd ripples”
Cheater-Speak: “I think it’s best…”
“I think it’s best for both of us if we live apart.” -Cheater A Cheater saying something like this is a Cheater planning on abandoning the faithful spouse. Now, they may or may not be self-aware about this. It is possible that they are so self-deceived that they believe the lie about the separation benefits. … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I think it’s best…””
On Temporary Discomfort
For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. -2 Corinthians 4:17, NIV Weight training in equipment has provided a life lesson: Pressing into the discomfort leads to joy afterwards! When you have over 700lbs/317kg hanging over you, pressure starts building in the head with … Continue reading “On Temporary Discomfort”
In Mammon they trust!
24 No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon. -Matthew 6:24, KJV 24 “No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other; you will … Continue reading “In Mammon they trust!”
Conflicted Feelings at Reunion
I wrote this a few years ago reflecting on a college reunion. In fact, this week will be my 20th Reunion! Today, I thankfully feel less entwined with those contrasting feelings since I have been back to the city of my alma mater a few more times with Mrs. DM. Obviously, a version of this … Continue reading “Conflicted Feelings at Reunion”
Ripples still ongoing
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. -Proverbs 27:6, KJV People who have not lived the experience might not understand the incredible devastation cheating inflicts on faithful spouses. Years can pass and the losses can come up in a micro-second. A song plays. A Facebook post is … Continue reading “Ripples still ongoing”
Foolish Cheater
Don’t be so stupid as to think you can get away with your adultery. It will destroy your life, and you’ll pay the price for the rest of your days. -Proverbs 6:32, TPT Some Cheaters are so drunk on their pride that they believe no one will discover their adulterous sins. This is really sad. … Continue reading “Foolish Cheater”
Happy Father’s Day, Faithful Spouses!
Happy Father’s Day, Faithful Spouses! Father’s Day is a complicated holiday for many. To me, it represents a restored dream. When my first marriage ended, I was left wondering if I would ever get to be a father. God answered that question in affirmative when I married Mrs. DM becoming an instant father to her … Continue reading “Happy Father’s Day, Faithful Spouses!”