Priests form bands of robbers, waiting in ambush for their victims. They murder travelers along the road to Shechem and practice every kind of sin. -Hosea 6:9, NLT While writing this blog and receiving email, I have come across more than one scenario involving a married pastor having sex with his (or her) congregant. Then … Continue reading “Predator Pastors”
Author: Divorce Minister
Mrs. DM to Stuck-On-Pastor
***THIS POST IS A CONTINUATION OF “DEAR DM, I AM CHEATING WITH MY PASTOR“*** Dear Divorce Minister (and Mrs. Divorce Minister), Please I need help,I’ve been having extra marital affair with my pastor,we’ve been seeing each other consistently, we tried so stay away from each other after some time will be in contact again, I … Continue reading “Mrs. DM to Stuck-On-Pastor”
More Concerned with Personal Image
Cheaters are often more worried about what people think about them than what they actually did. This is the reason that they are so upset when faithful spouses dare tell others about their adultery. Such revelations make them look bad. It is hard to spin committing adultery in a positive light–especially in a Christian community. (Albeit, some … Continue reading “More Concerned with Personal Image”
Committing Adultery is Contra-Christianity 101
The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,” and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor. -Romans 13:9-10a, NIV Cheaters have been known to profess their commitment to Christianity … Continue reading “Committing Adultery is Contra-Christianity 101”
Dear DM, I am cheating with my pastor.
Dear Divorce Minister, Please I need help,I’ve been having extra marital affair with my pastor,we’ve been seeing each other consistently, we tried so stay away from each other after some time will be in contact again, I suggested that I should leave his church he’s literally refusing, I tried to find a job away from … Continue reading “Dear DM, I am cheating with my pastor.”
Labor Day Distraction
When my life was recently obliterated by the discovery of the other man plus my (now ex) wife serving me divorce papers, I took a trip to visit my best friends in New York City. It was Labor Day weekend. Now, I am not a huge NYC fan–no offense to those who love this city … Continue reading “Labor Day Distraction”
Dear Divorce Minister, What should I look for?
Dear Divorce Minister, My husband choose to continue his affair, which has resulted in me filling for divorce. He did not show any true remorse just used the word sorry. His actions in continuing to see his AP told me otherwise. When the divorce is final he is then not committing a sin anymore. What … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister, What should I look for?”
Reconciled to Friendship, NOT Marriage
And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. – 2 Corinthians 5:19b, NIV Reconciled to Friendship, NOT Marriage! What often bothers me about Christians talking about marriages ravaged by adultery is how “reconciliation” is thrown about as the same thing as marriage restoration. It is not. A former couple could experience true reconciliation … Continue reading “Reconciled to Friendship, NOT Marriage”
Confessing Christian Cheater
“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.” -Matthew 7:21, NIV Confessing “Christian” Cheaters One of the most confusing part of dealing with adultery and general infidelity discoveries is how they do not fit with the … Continue reading “Confessing Christian Cheater”
God Will Not Refuse to Receive You!
“Failures are events, NOT persons.” -Anonymous psychologist (emphasis mine) “Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close.” -Psalm 27:10, NLT These two quotes ministered greatly to my ravaged soul during the aftermath of discovering adultery and getting divorced. The power of the statements are tied to the lies they address. … Continue reading “God Will Not Refuse to Receive You!”