“If a man commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife, both the man and the woman who have committed adultery must be put to death.” -Leviticus 20:10, NLT What astounds me with pastors and Christian marriage counselors who deal with marital infidelity situations is how too many treat cheating as incidental to a marriage ending in … Continue reading “On treating cheating as incidental to the divorce…”
Author: Divorce Minister
Be Careful!
So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall! -I Corinthians 10:12, NIV God has placed it upon my heart today to share a caution to faithful spouses. Be careful after making the infidelity discovery! You are emotionally and sexually vulnerable! It is so tempting to go to another man or woman to … Continue reading “Be Careful!”
A Cheater’s Brutal “Honesty”
“I got to be open and honest with you…” -Cheater This usually precedes some brutal statement about the “failings” of the faithful spouse as understood by the cheater. The openness and honest part of such a verbal barrage is usually limited to being open and clear in the cheater’s utter contempt and hatred for the … Continue reading “A Cheater’s Brutal “Honesty””
A Religious Cheater–Tullian Tchividjian…again
What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it? -Romans 6:1-2, NKJV Tullian Tchividjian, Reverend Billy Graham’s disgraced grandson, is back in the news. More details are coming out about his infidelity. See story here and … Continue reading “A Religious Cheater–Tullian Tchividjian…again”
Better Days Ahead!
The Lord blessed the latter days of Job more than his beginning…. -Job 42:12a, NASB So much is done within the Church to reinforce fears concerning divorce. Even a ministry I generally recommend for those divorcing a cheating spouse, DivorceCare, does this to some extent. They certainly do not encourage divorce–even when, I believe, that … Continue reading “Better Days Ahead!”
Encouraging Song
“Come As You Are” by Crowder is a song that I have recently (re?)discovered and grown to appreciate. The song was first released in 2014. It has rich, soothing lyrics. I hope as you click on the YouTube video above and watch the lyrics that you will find yourself encouraged and blessed by this beautiful … Continue reading “Encouraging Song”
Painful Absence
You have removed lover and friend far from me; My acquaintances are in darkness. -Psalm 88:18, NASB Holidays can be especially painful when you find yourself recently bereft of your spouse or long-time partner. Honestly, some of the most painful parts of my marriage ending was adjusting to no longer having my spouse with me … Continue reading “Painful Absence”
Give Thanks!
In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. -I Thessalonians 5:18, KJV Happy Thanksgiving! Adapting a line from my old pastor, the Greek word for “everything” means “everything.” So, we are to give thanks in–you guessed it–everything! I believe giving thanks is a spiritual discipline God … Continue reading “Give Thanks!”
Bridges FOR Burning!
I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or is a drunkard, or cheats people. Don’t even eat with such people. – I Corinthians 5:11, NLT Some bridges need burning! I am thinking of … Continue reading “Bridges FOR Burning!”
“It doesn’t matter matter what she did.”
“It doesn’t matter what she did. You need to focus on your own sins.” – Cheater Apologist This sort of response is the very definition of dismissive. It has all the appearance of godliness without the substance. Of course, adultery–i.e. the victimization of faithful spouses–matters to God! When someone responds by being dismissive of adultery or … Continue reading ““It doesn’t matter matter what she did.””