Pro-Tip: When the Cheater is more concerned about how you found out than the damaged they did to you, then you know they are not remorseful. This is the behavior of someone who is looking for the source of the leaked information. People ask such questions to continue their behavior. They are looking to plug … Continue reading “More concerned about how you found out”
Author: Divorce Minister
Signs: Emotional Affairs
To those who have no sense she says, “Stolen water is sweet; food eaten in secret is delicious!” But little do they know that the dead are there, that her guests are deep in the realm of the dead. -Proverbs 9:16b-18, NIV Signs: Emotional Affairs I do not think affairs happen as the result of one … Continue reading “Signs: Emotional Affairs”
Lying habit problem
19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved. -John 3:19-20, KJV I have a theory about why some cheaters refuse to … Continue reading “Lying habit problem”
Let them leave AND move on!
But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. -I Corinthians 7:15, KJV Let the Cheater leave! If a Cheater is literally hell-bent on denying Christ by their actions, let them. This is on them. I see … Continue reading “Let them leave AND move on!”
Happy Mother’s Day!
Happy Mother’s Day! To all those faithful mothers and those mothers–whether biological or spiritual–who stood by us, I wish you the best of days on this Mother’s Day. May you have a wonderful day of enjoyment and celebration.
Relief of knowing!
Relief. The months of stone-cold or downright cruel responses. Warmth disappearing overnight like a Minnesotan May blizzard. It all started to make sense. I wasn’t imagining things. The Other Man. He existed. Had existed for months! This is one of the strangest and most surreal parts of discovering infidelity. The moment of confirmation is not only … Continue reading “Relief of knowing!”
Powerless curses
As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come. -Proverbs 26:2, KJV Cheaters and their apologists say all sort of cruel and awful things about the faithful spouse. I would consider these things curses. They are using their mouth to degrade and attack the faithful party. It … Continue reading “Powerless curses”
Belong FOREVER!
In healthy spirituality, belonging is never “on the table.” For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father. -Romans 8:15, KJV When I am struggling with fear, I am usually disconnected from this truth found in Romans 8:15. The … Continue reading “Belong FOREVER!”
“What do you know?”
“Well, what do you know?” says Cheater. This is a clear sign that your Cheater is in full-blown damage control. They want to know what is known so that they don’t “over” confess. Plus, they want to know where the leaks are so that they can plug them. I do not recommend showing all your … Continue reading ““What do you know?””
Healing words for faithful spouses
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV “Yes, it happened. She cheated on you. And that’s right: you didn’t deserve it. It’s not your fault. Not at all.” You really want to help a faithful spouse. … Continue reading “Healing words for faithful spouses”