“See, it is I who created the blacksmith who fans the coals into flame and forges a weapon fit for its work. And it is I who have created the destroyer to wreak havoc; no weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. -Isaiah 54:16-17a, NIV Words matter. Words can minimize. … Continue reading “Words matter, words can minimize”
Author: Divorce Minister
Simple Commandment
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV I wonder how this simple and clear commandment has become second fiddle to couples’ counseling “wisdom” for so many pastors. So much time goes into the “why” of the cheating and little time is spent on pointing out the willful nature of the sin. In other words, … Continue reading “Simple Commandment”
The gut knows
This morning I was watching a reel on my phone. In this reel, a man called into a show and shared about his troubled marriage. He talked about how his wife had an “emotional affair.” The host and the caller go back and forth about what he should have done as a husband. Then the … Continue reading “The gut knows”
Why did you choose to sin? What lie did you buy?
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT “Why did you choose to sin?” This is the question for the cheater. Until they understand the answer to this, they cannot repent. The … Continue reading “Why did you choose to sin? What lie did you buy?”
Hobby Milestone – 915lbs!
I am taking a break from my usual postings to talk about my hobby–equipped bench pressing. Yesterday marked a significant milestone on my quest to bench press 1,000lbs. Weight loaded on the bar prior to the lift. In training yesterday, I bench pressed 915lbs/415kgs! If I do this same weight in competition, that would place … Continue reading “Hobby Milestone – 915lbs!”
Gratitude guards your heart
Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, NIV As a hospice chaplain*, I see many different sorts of people on a daily basis. Often times, my … Continue reading “Gratitude guards your heart”
Grief with the finality of it all
It felt different when it was final. The divorce. Up until then, I think I was still praying for a repentance miracle. Magical thinking is hard to shake, at least, for me. I got the papers, and then I knew it was truly over. It just felt different. My recommendation is to plan that day. … Continue reading “Grief with the finality of it all”
Power Struggle, not a marriage
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. -Ephesians 5:21, NIV I am convinced some Cheaters treat marriage issues as power struggles. They refuse to submit to their spouse as they find it offensive to actually “lose” in any way. To them, the idea of humbling themselves and truly repenting is repulsive. They act allergic … Continue reading “Power Struggle, not a marriage”
The road is paved
“The road to Hell is paved… …with good intentions.” -A proverb This saying is a wise one to remember when dealing with the aftermath that comes following infidelity discovery. It applies both to the actual cheater and to those who profess they are only giving “care.” “I never intended to hurt you.” – Cheater … Continue reading “The road is paved”
No signs of repentance
23 “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NIV Even if you are no longer married, I think … Continue reading “No signs of repentance”