One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. -Proverbs 18:24, NIV Today, I am writing a post about what I learned concerning friendships following my ex’s adultery and my divorce. These are lessons I learned from my personal experience, and I speak from … Continue reading “Dealing With Friends Post-Adultery And Divorce”
Author: Divorce Minister
Lessons Learned After My Divorce
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. -Romans 8:28, NIV Today, I wanted to post about some important lessons I learned as an adultery and divorce survivor. These are just my personal thoughts–not counseling or really even pastoral reflections for the … Continue reading “Lessons Learned After My Divorce”
Fellowship of Suffering
I want to know Christ—yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, attaining to the resurrection from the dead. – Philippians 3:10-11, NIV Nothing like a deep trial to sort out true friends from fair-weather fans. And nothing like shared suffering to solidify bonds as … Continue reading “Fellowship of Suffering”
Blame-shifting From Eden
He said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?” The man said, “The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.” Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this that you have done?” … Continue reading “Blame-shifting From Eden”
PSA: Concerning Marriage Therapists
PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT (PSA): While I recommend finding a good therapist while going through the trauma of adultery (and/or divorce), not every marriage therapist is equal. I can tell you that just because it says LMFT after the therapist’s name (License Marriage and Family Therapist) does not mean they are trustworthy. Even after admittedly cheating … Continue reading “PSA: Concerning Marriage Therapists”
Shared Responsibility Lie
29 “This is the ritual law for dealing with suspicion. If a woman goes astray and defiles herself while under her husband’s authority, 30 or if a man becomes jealous and is suspicious that his wife has been unfaithful, the husband must present his wife before the Lord, and the priest will apply this entire ritual law to her. 31 The … Continue reading “Shared Responsibility Lie”
Job’s Story of Gifts and Grief
So the Lord blessed Job in the second half of his life even more than in the beginning. For now he had 14,000 sheep, 6,000 camels, 1,000 teams of oxen, and 1,000 female donkeys. He also gave Job seven more sons and three more daughters. – Job 42:12-13, NLT Today is an important day for me. Or should … Continue reading “Job’s Story of Gifts and Grief”
Pastor Tim Keller Preaching On Spiritual Warfare
If you have time (35 minutes or so), I would highly recommend that you listen to this audio file on YouTube of Pastor Timothy Keller preaching on spiritual warfare. His text is taken from Ephesians 6. As I listened to the sermon yesterday, I could not help but think of how applicable this sermon’s ideas … Continue reading “Pastor Tim Keller Preaching On Spiritual Warfare”
When She Leaves…
(But if the husband or wife who isn’t a believer insists on leaving, let them go. In such cases the believing husband or wife is no longer bound to the other, for God has called you to live in peace.) – I Cor 7:15, NLT A group often missed in the Christian discussion of adultery and divorce … Continue reading “When She Leaves…”
RE: Gospel Witness And Divorce
A reader of the blog wrote a response to my post entitled: “Gospel Witness and Divorce.” It is worth a more detailed examination as it highlights common approaches to and confusion surrounding divorce after adultery in the evangelical subculture. I am grateful, Pete, wrote such a thoughtful and respectful response to my post. Here’s what … Continue reading “RE: Gospel Witness And Divorce”