***POST UPDATE: BOOK NOT TO BE RELEASED NOW UNTIL MAY 10TH!*** Screen shot of book’s Amazon.com page (click here) Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady’s Survival Guide By Tracy Schorn –A FAITHFUL SPOUSE RESOURCE RECOMMENDATION— Today, Chump Lady‘s newest book was released in Kindle format (Hard copies are to be released later). … Continue reading “Book Resource For Faithful Spouses”
Author: Divorce Minister
Cheater-speak: “I don’t want to hurt you.”
Cheater Reason NOT to Disclose Adultery and/or Infidelity Details: “I don’t want to hurt you.” This one was an especially annoying line of reasoning. It comes packaged to faithful spouse as altruism on the cheater’s part when the reality is the cheater is refusing to disclose for his/her own selfish reasons. We do not think “altruism”–i.e. … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “I don’t want to hurt you.””
Two Common Christian Mistakes
Eliphaz replying to Job– “Consider now: Who, being innocent, has ever perished? Where were the upright ever destroyed? As I have observed, those who plow evil and those who sow trouble reap it.” -Job 4:7-8, NIV As I have blogged for closing on two years regarding infidelity and how Christians respond to faithful spouses, I … Continue reading “Two Common Christian Mistakes”
On Warm Baths and Nice Kitties
This time the dove returned to him in the evening with a fresh olive leaf in its beak. Then Noah knew that the floodwaters were almost gone. -Genesis 8:11, NLT Cheaters are already too central. As faithful spouses, we make them central for several very good reasons: 1) They are central because some of us … Continue reading “On Warm Baths and Nice Kitties”
Escaping to Romantic Fantasyland
“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV It is pointless to engage in “reconciliation” efforts while a partner continues cheating. You are wasting time and treasure. The worst piece of advice I got was to take my focus off … Continue reading “Escaping to Romantic Fantasyland”
DM Blog Milestone: 200,000+ Views
Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously! Milestone: Over 200,000 views from 70,000+ individuals! Thank you for all the visits and making this blog such a well-trafficked space on the internet! We have reached this milestone well under two years from the blog’s official launch in July of 2014. It is amazing what God is doing spreading … Continue reading “DM Blog Milestone: 200,000+ Views”
When the ring is the focus…
For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs. -I Timothy 6:10, NIV When I proposed to my first wife, I had a dramatically different response than when I proposed to Mrs. DM. My first … Continue reading “When the ring is the focus…”
Sharing How It Ended…
Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. -Ephesians 5:11-12, NIV It happened to me, again, today. I was having a conversation with a work colleague who wanted to know more about me. Of course, I shared … Continue reading “Sharing How It Ended…”
“The Sin of Divorce” Language
“The Sin of Divorce” Language matters. Distinctions matter. Context matters. All of these are reasons for why I dislike the phrase “the sin of divorce.” It fails theologically and pastorally on many levels. My hope is that those who teach on divorce in the church stop using it altogether. The biggest issue I have with … Continue reading ““The Sin of Divorce” Language”
The Unseen In Tullian Tchividjian’s Apology And News Coverage
It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take … Continue reading “The Unseen In Tullian Tchividjian’s Apology And News Coverage”