13 Thereafter, Hagar used another name to refer to the Lord, who had spoken to her. She said, “You are the God who sees me.” -Genesis 16:13a, NLT To be seen! I think this is a human need: to be truly seen and known. This is what God did for Hagar in her time of distress following … Continue reading “To be seen”
Powerful worship song
When I was in the pit of adultery discovery and the divorce discard, I was attending a church that regularly played a song with true spiritual power. It is a song that lifted and lifts my eyes from my circumstances and places them on God who is holy and perfect. The song is a version … Continue reading “Powerful worship song”
Aggressors, not victims!
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! -I Corinthians 6:15, NIV Cheater, you are the aggressor, not the victim, here! For whatever reasons, people are often taken in by the pity story a caught Cheater spins … Continue reading “Aggressors, not victims!”
Choices… Cheater choices.
“Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!” -Deuteronomy 30:19, NLT Choices, choices, and Cheater choices! The thing with Cheaters is … Continue reading “Choices… Cheater choices.”
Permission to divorce comes with permission to remarry
When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when … Continue reading “Permission to divorce comes with permission to remarry”
Suffer with you
“Let Me Show You the Way” is an old but favorite song from Michael W. Smith. He really captures the heart of true friendship. This song by MWS speaks to what I believe is a human longing. It is a longing for a good friend who loves at a deep, heart-level. These are the friends … Continue reading “Suffer with you”
What kind of harvest?
7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. 8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. 9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in … Continue reading “What kind of harvest?”
Communication issues? Really?!
“Sounds like you all need to learn how to better communicate,” says clueless pastor to Cheater and Faithful Spouse. This is such a pathetic cop out to the real problems a couple faces when infidelity has occurred. The problems are much deeper than “communication issues.” Adultery is sin. So, it is a sin, not a … Continue reading “Communication issues? Really?!”
Cheater: “I sorted the issues around my affair with my therapist. We’re good.”
“I talked through my issues around the affair with my therapist. We’re good now,” says Cheater. He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her.“ -Mark 10:11, NIV An affair is a violation of the marriage vow to “forsake all others.” The cheater has sinned against their spouse–whether physically or … Continue reading “Cheater: “I sorted the issues around my affair with my therapist. We’re good.””
God’s word is solid.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV “They’re getting away with it!” says Faithful Spouse. I get this feeling. Sometimes, it feels like your Cheater does not miss a beat discarding you on their way to an … Continue reading “God’s word is solid.”