If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other. -Galatians 5:15, NIV “Beware of false prophets who come disguised as harmless sheep but are really vicious wolves.” -Matthew 7:15, NLT Not everyone who comes to you as a “sheep” is one of Jesus’ flock. God knows. And … Continue reading “Biting Sheep!”
Breaking the Golden Rule
For this, “Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet;” and if there be any other commandment, it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, “Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” -Romans 13:9, KJV (quotation marks and emphasis mine) Cheaters break … Continue reading “Breaking the Golden Rule”
A frustration with some Christian mental health providers
“If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive.” -Luke 17:3b, NLT Rebuke, repentance, THEN AND ONLY THEN, forgiveness is to be offered. This is the order Jesus Himself gave us for godly forgiveness. However, this is usually NOT the order presented to faithful spouses or Christians in other traumatic situations. … Continue reading “A frustration with some Christian mental health providers”
Favor with God AND man! Proverbs 3:4
Proverbs 3:3-6 King James Version (Emphasis Mine) 3 Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the table of thine heart: 4 So shalt thou find favour and good understanding in the sight of God and man. 5 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6 In … Continue reading “Favor with God AND man! Proverbs 3:4”
Mailbag: A Chump Again?
Dear Divorce Minister, My ex-wife sent this email too me tonight. (Just in time to keep me up) “Hi L. I will soon be turning 66! The benefit of old age is that I will be eligible for social security. I went to the SS office and was told I can sign up for your … Continue reading “Mailbag: A Chump Again?”
Dang old memories…
Grief comes in waves. It ambushes you sometimes from nowhere. I was collecting pictures for an old friend who knew me in my previously married state. In fact, he was the best man at that wedding–i.e. the wedding where I married my cheater. So, it is not surprising the review of those photos brought back … Continue reading “Dang old memories…”
Make them a mere footnote to your awesome story
So the Lord blessed Job in the second half of his life even more than in the beginning. -Job 42:12a, NLT Faithful Spouses, we have a choice: Do we keep on allowing the cheater to be the central player in our life story or do we go out and take command of our story forging decisions … Continue reading “Make them a mere footnote to your awesome story”
Whacked Out Crazy Cheaters
They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. -Jeremiah 6:14, NIV A common theme I’ve noticed over the years is how mental illness seems present with cheaters. They are often highly unstable types. Now, I am not a mental health provider and … Continue reading “Whacked Out Crazy Cheaters”
It was a hug for me.
“Goodbye in her eyes” by Zac Brown Band It wasn’t a kiss. It was a hug. We had just finished our dentist appointments. She had forgotten that she had made joint appointments. I had already confronted her about the Other Man about two weeks prior. She was still lying about him and still denying adultery. … Continue reading “It was a hug for me.”
Satire “Sermon” on Adultery
If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, KJV When adultery is committed, it hits the whole community. This is how the Bible teaches … Continue reading “Satire “Sermon” on Adultery”