Deep Dive: Abuse Survivor’s Forgiveness Definition

Rachael Denhollander did an interview with Christianity Today.  Her responses to how coming out as a sexual assault victim of Larry Nassar, the disgraced gymnastics doctor and convicted predator, has impacted her in her Christian community are profound. I did a whole blog post on my thoughts in dialogue with her responses in that interview (click … Continue reading “Deep Dive: Abuse Survivor’s Forgiveness Definition”

More from Rachael Denhollander, former gymnast and sexual abuse survivor…

Recently, the testimony of Rachel Denhollander caught fire in the Christian community for her bringing her faith to bear in the trial of her former abuser, Larry Nassar. I shared a link to the transcripts of her testimony as I found her statements clear and well-articulated explanations of forgiveness and justice in the light of … Continue reading “More from Rachael Denhollander, former gymnast and sexual abuse survivor…”

Most resources I found…

While I am thankful for the help of some Christian resources in my dark season, I discovered most had an agenda apart from freely presenting the options. Most Christian resources–in my experience–are focused upon “saving the marriage” at the unacknowledged cost of the faithful spouse’s well-being. For these authors and pastors, no cost–from the faithful … Continue reading “Most resources I found…”

Cheaters ARE eligible for forgiveness and grace as long as…

Dear friends, if we deliberately continue sinning after we have received knowledge of the truth, there is no longer any sacrifice that will cover these sins. There is only the terrible expectation of God’s judgment and the raging fire that will consume his enemies. -Hebrews 10:26-27, NLT Cheaters ARE eligible for forgiveness and grace as long … Continue reading “Cheaters ARE eligible for forgiveness and grace as long as…”

Cheater-Speak: “I am not divorcing you for that [the affair].”

“Yes, I had a sexual relationship with him. But I am not divorcing you for that.” -Cheater A cheater from a religious background might say some drivel like this in a last ditch attempt to rescue her reputation. They know people–especially if their religion condemns it–generally frown upon adultery. So, they are trying to distract … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I am not divorcing you for that [the affair].””

Worst piece of advice given to me was …

“Contend with your mother, contend, For she is not my wife, and I am not her husband; And let her put away her harlotry from her face And her adultery from between her breasts…” -Hosea 2:2, NASB While I do not mind the end result–the merciful divorce paving the way to my marriage to Mrs. DM–I am still … Continue reading “Worst piece of advice given to me was …”

What Divorce Minister Is.

  When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. -Matthew 9:36, NIV Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously Critics of me and this blog often have the wrong picture of what this website is (By the way, thank you to all those who wrote … Continue reading “What Divorce Minister Is.”

When One Spouse Loves Money…

For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. -I Timothy 6:10, KJV When one spouse loves money, watch out! If you have ever done pre-marital counseling or read such materials, you will find they … Continue reading “When One Spouse Loves Money…”

The troubles of this life do not win. Jesus does.

“In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” -Jesus in John 16:33b, NIV Whatever the trouble we may facing, we have these words of comfort from Jesus. The world does not win! It soothes my anxieties to remember this truth. While Jesus promises that we will experience trouble in this … Continue reading “The troubles of this life do not win. Jesus does.”