“We just married too young. That’s why it didn’t work out.” -Cheater I just do not buy the “married too young” explanation for divorce. It is an excuse. This is a tidy lie to cover up for the cheater’s character deficits and to help people avoid feeling uncomfortable in facing the hard truth: The cheater … Continue reading ““Married Too Young” Excuse”
Yep, I am intolerant.
Yes, that is correct. My name is David, and I am intolerant. And I am not ashamed of this truth in the least. This intolerance presents no problems internally for me. In fact, I hope more people–and more pastors, especially–become as intolerant as I am. If only our churches were so intolerant! My hope is … Continue reading “Yep, I am intolerant.”
Assessing Forgiveness Vs Assessing Repentance
“The men of Nineveh will stand up at the judgment with this generation and condemn it; for they repented at the preaching of Jonah, and now something greater than Jonah is here.” -Matthew 12:41, NIV If godly forgiveness is truly unilateral, why would Jesus not simply tell his Jewish audience they are already forgiven? The … Continue reading “Assessing Forgiveness Vs Assessing Repentance”
An Important “IF”
“If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and IF they repent, forgive them.” -Luke 17:3b, NIV (Emphasis Mine) IF we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. -I John 1:9, NKJV AN IMPORTANT “IF” When Christians encounter situations where marital infidelity has taken … Continue reading “An Important “IF””
Dear DM, Do I just keep sucking it up?
Dear Divorce Minister, As hard as it is, I have been reading your posts as an offender against my husband. I have taken full responsibility for my actions, I believe I repented and worked for years to make amends. He says he has forgiven me, yet why do I feel as if I’m being constantly … Continue reading “Dear DM, Do I just keep sucking it up?”
Marry Someone Who Is NOT Ambivalent
When choosing a spouse, I recommend NOT marrying someone who demonstrates ambivalence about the union. This is a lesson I learned from my first marriage ending. When you are with someone who is less than eager to “tie the knot,” it may spell problems down the road. Besides, you are worth being with someone who … Continue reading “Marry Someone Who Is NOT Ambivalent”
Predator Pastors
Priests form bands of robbers, waiting in ambush for their victims. They murder travelers along the road to Shechem and practice every kind of sin. -Hosea 6:9, NLT While writing this blog and receiving email, I have come across more than one scenario involving a married pastor having sex with his (or her) congregant. Then … Continue reading “Predator Pastors”
Mrs. DM to Stuck-On-Pastor
***THIS POST IS A CONTINUATION OF “DEAR DM, I AM CHEATING WITH MY PASTOR“*** Dear Divorce Minister (and Mrs. Divorce Minister), Please I need help,I’ve been having extra marital affair with my pastor,we’ve been seeing each other consistently, we tried so stay away from each other after some time will be in contact again, I … Continue reading “Mrs. DM to Stuck-On-Pastor”
More Concerned with Personal Image
Cheaters are often more worried about what people think about them than what they actually did. This is the reason that they are so upset when faithful spouses dare tell others about their adultery. Such revelations make them look bad. It is hard to spin committing adultery in a positive light–especially in a Christian community. (Albeit, some … Continue reading “More Concerned with Personal Image”
Committing Adultery is Contra-Christianity 101
The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,” and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor. -Romans 13:9-10a, NIV Cheaters have been known to profess their commitment to Christianity … Continue reading “Committing Adultery is Contra-Christianity 101”