Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! -I Corinthians 6:15, NLT Christians seem especially shy in assigning blame to a cheater for destroying his or her marriage. Many seem to believe or operate … Continue reading “Analogy: So, if a murderer kills a sick person, does that mean she isn’t a murderer?!”
Making One’s Own Fires Ends Poorly!
Listen carefully, all you who kindle your own fire [devising your own man-made plan of salvation], Who surround yourselves with torches, Walk by the light of your [self-made] fire And among the torches that you have set ablaze. But this you will have from My hand: You will lie down in [a place of] torment. … Continue reading “Making One’s Own Fires Ends Poorly!”
Cheaters and “The False Gospel of Self-Fulfillment”
See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy…. -Colossians 2:8a, NIV Recently, I came across a fascinating article in Christianity Today by Jen Pollock Michel entitled “Glennon Doyle Melton’s Gospel of Self-Fulfillment: Why living your truth bravely isn’t enough.” The article takes aim at the thinking espoused by famous Momastery blogger, … Continue reading “Cheaters and “The False Gospel of Self-Fulfillment””
When hating is godly….
Let those who love the LORD hate evil, for he guards the lives of his faithful ones and delivers them from the hand of the wicked. -Psalm 97:10, NIV Like anger, hate often is treated as always wrong among Christians. It is not! Here in Psalm 97, we have a command to hate. In fact, it … Continue reading “When hating is godly….”
Cheaters Choose To Harden Their Hearts
And Pharaoh hardened his heart at this time also, neither would he let the people go. -Exodus 8:32, KJV Cheaters become cheaters by going down “The Road of Bad Choices.” They have hard hearts because they have chosen to harden their hearts just as Pharaoh did. I make this point for two reasons: 1) I suspect … Continue reading “Cheaters Choose To Harden Their Hearts”
Top Five Divorce Minister Posts of 2016
With the close of one year and the beginning of the next, it is time to look back to see what people found most helpful or interesting on Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously. Top Five Posts: 5. God’s Emotional Response To Adultery – 2,398 views This post points out God’s very angry and furious response to … Continue reading “Top Five Divorce Minister Posts of 2016”
Break the cycle…Start anew!
See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? -Isaiah 43:19a, NIV Reports regarding cycles of infidelity are not uncommon stories here. This is a sad but true statement. -Maybe your wife had multiple emotional affairs and this last one you caught her making it physical. You now … Continue reading “Break the cycle…Start anew!”
130,000+ Views In 2016
With the end of another calendar year, I like to share an update about how Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is doing. This past year the blog experienced: -130,000+ Views -Nearly 60,000 unique visitors -Traffic from over 170 different nations covering most of the globe! Most of the visitors here are new visitors. Apparently, the need is … Continue reading “130,000+ Views In 2016”
I am happier divorced.
Christians, pastors, and Christian counselors often paint divorce as such a horrible thing. It is as if divorced people are viewed as almost permanently damaged or forever morally tainted by virtue of being divorced. Guess what? I have a confession to make… Divorcing my cheating first wife did not doom me to a sad existence … Continue reading “I am happier divorced.”
Third Party Presence NOT the Cause?
“First, realize that the third person is never the full reason for separation. In fact, Guidepost 4 says that marital difficulty is caused by the marriage partners, not by someone outside the marriage….Your failures and those of your spouse brought about the crisis in your marriage.” -ONE MORE TRY by Gary Chapman, pp31-32. Oddly, I … Continue reading “Third Party Presence NOT the Cause?”