Lesson: Dating Two At A Time Was And Is Wrong!

“I can hardly believe the report about the sexual immorality going on among you—something that even pagans don’t do.” -I Corinthians 5:1a, NLT I played four years of collegiate-level football at a small liberal arts college in Minnesota. It was a good experience for the relationships I developed over those years even though we weren’t … Continue reading “Lesson: Dating Two At A Time Was And Is Wrong!”

An Exchange Regarding Assuming Divorce

Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife for just any reason?” -Matthew 19:3, NLT On Monday, I shared a post about how certain lines of questioning cross the line (click here). This inspired the following comment from OKRickety, which I plan on … Continue reading “An Exchange Regarding Assuming Divorce”

Acceptance of reality

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. – Albert Einstein Now the Lord said to Samuel, “You have mourned long enough for Saul. I have rejected him as king of Israel, so fill your flask with olive oil and go to Bethlehem. -I Samuel 16:1a, NLT An important part … Continue reading “Acceptance of reality”

“What did you learn?” Crosses A Line

So they sat down with him on the ground seven days and seven nights, and no one spoke a word to him, for they saw that his grief was very great. -Job 2:13, NKJV I remember being asked a form of the question so often asked of faithful spouses. We are asked, “What did you … Continue reading ““What did you learn?” Crosses A Line”

Rebuking is Christ-honoring behavior, too!

When Cephas came to Antioch, I opposed him to his face, because he stood condemned…The other Jews joined him in his hypocrisy…. -Galatians 2:11, 13a, NIV Sometimes a rebuke is in order. Cephas, aka the Apostle Peter, needed a rebuke by the Apostle Paul for doing what he knew was wrong and leading others astray … Continue reading “Rebuking is Christ-honoring behavior, too!”

On Finding An Excellent Spouse

DM & Mrs. DM taken while still dating Conventional Christian dating advice is CRAP! That is what I learned going through my divorce. Such advice promises much and delivers little. I put too much stock in following Christian dating rules to the detriment of ignoring red flags that might have spared me a marriage to … Continue reading “On Finding An Excellent Spouse”

Stop Swigging Salt Water!

  So Moses brought Israel from the Red sea, and they went out into the wilderness of Shur; and they went three days in the wilderness, and found no water. And when they came to Marah, they could not drink of the waters of Marah, for they were bitter: therefore the name of it was called … Continue reading “Stop Swigging Salt Water!”

On the “Being Unhappy” Reason For Divorce

 “But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery.” -Matthew 5:32, NLT Part of the justification cheaters often use to blame-shift upon faithful spouses is the charge of being unhappy in the marriage. Let’s … Continue reading “On the “Being Unhappy” Reason For Divorce”

Ungodly pastoral counsel comes from educated, religious leaders, too!

 Then the Pharisees called a meeting to plot how to kill Jesus. -Matthew 12:14, NLT For many years, I struggled with the idea of standing up for myself with medical professionals. The idea of “firing” one’s doctor did not seem like a real possibility for me. You see, I had grown up in a medical … Continue reading “Ungodly pastoral counsel comes from educated, religious leaders, too!”